So when does the unconventionality meter start to register as a negative instead of a positive? There is no exact science here to help, of course...but being labeled "out-there" is quite a leap from the normal, natural desire to be unique, which most people like to proclaim they are in one way or another. Don't believe me? Just try calling someone a conformist who cannot think for him/herself! That would be an insult...
As rvers, who by society's definition weren't "ready" to be rving, given the status of our checkbook, we have been met with "you guys are awesome!" on one extreme to resentment from others. Of course you have to weed through some cases of envy, because there are people out there who are unconventional inside, but feeling stuck in conformity. Heck, before I made this huge leap, I had a lot of envious feelings regarding those I saw living the simple life I only dreamed of. But where does the anger and resentful feeling come from, when someone is quietly walking down their own path, hurting no one? Why such a negative response?
I can say, even if I couldn't live the life I desired for many, many years, I've always been consistently unconventional. You name it: politics, modern medicine/pharmaceuticals, parenting, processed foods, religion, insurance...I just don't follow the "norms" on any of these modes of thinking and follow alternative paths on all of them. Society has always been sorta vanilla to me, and I'm more of a neapolitan lover. But rving pushed my individuality out into the open. It wasn't a thought to be kept inside, a strong opinion I could keep my mouth zipped on...it was out there for everyone to see. Who does this?! Who walks away from all of their comforts and into a life of unknowns and no security?
So is that the key? External vs. Internal Unconventionality? In my lifetime, I've seen the most aggressive responses come in correlation with external cues (outside appearances, vocal declarations). Is that when it crosses over from being cute and spirited to a negative personality trait or a human defect? What is the threat of unconventionality, if lifestyle choices aren't impacting anyone but the person living their lives?
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