Decoding - Life Isn't Fair - And Who This Really Affects

The people who say life isn't fair the most are often those people who try to get by doing the least possible, and expect the most to go their way. These people think that the world owes them one because they did a few good things (possibly even in selfishness labeling it as selfless) but don't take any responsibility for those things they did that were, not so good.

They did a few things and thought they got away with them, but in reality they didn't, life keeps track, or the universe if you will. Karma is the universal score keeper, and believe me it is completely fair. This is not to say that it's fair and with good timing (as far as you perceive), but it IS fair. Not everything is easily discernible but it IS the result of choices you made that lead to a path your currently on and the events happened on.

What isn't fair is getting away with doing things that were unethical and unfair to other people and thinking that life wouldn't catch up to them.

Even good people are hit with what seems unfair, but in the end everything we do, every movement we make, every choice we make, along with the 8 billion people on this planet, all affect everything else. Life is actually much bigger than yourself- even YOUR Life! We're all here together and it takes work not to clash... Everyone wants things, wants this or that but getting it is not just automatic. Life's not designed that way.

A simple choice may have drastic repercussions for someone you've never even met or even run into- it's a chain reaction. Taking responsibility for your life is the only way to navigate this river easily. Lack of responsibility blinds people to the truth.

Entitlement is often born of others being enablers, and the chain never stops with reasons and why's- not always up to what we wanted to hear or become aware of but definitely fair. I like to change the way the phrasing works to make it more accurate- "Life Isn't FREE". When you put it that way it all makes sense doesn't it?

Thinking that "judgment day" was something that only happens when you die and enter the pearly gates of heaven is naive, truth is judgment day is every day, every second, every moment, every choice. It's not god judging you, or anyone else, it's your own actions set into motion via the law of cause and effect/karma.

The irony of life is that we're here to learn and evolve spiritually. That comes with a lot of abrasive lessons that come at the most optimal time (not your optimal but the overall big picture) to teach you and allow you to grow.

Taking responsibility for your life is profoundly powerful and if you truly embrace this ideal, you'll never again say life isn't fair- because you'll realize life is what you make it, what you put into it and what goes in comes out usually amplified and at the worst possible time (for negative consequences).

What's a bit mind blowing is that people also experience this on the other side of the coin- serendipity. When something (positive happening that seems like winning the lottery) amazingly unfair (perceptively) happens we don't complain we embrace it. We don't question if we actually deserve it even if we feel like we don't. 

Taking responsibility for your actions also makes those moments incredibly impactful and you won't wonder if you deserve it, you'll know you do!

If you got mad at Johnny in grade school and to get back at him you said he was stupid, and he took it to heart and it affected him for years to come causing all sorts of problems, you have to realize that everything that happens because of your calling him stupid get's billed to your karma calendar.

Thinking and acting positively has repercussions too, only they are positive ones and they can give you some amazing good karma, but you will not escape bad karma with good karma, you simply won't generate more bad karma, but in generating good karma you may be more equipped to handle the bad karma from before.

Karma has a way of transcending time and space, even lifetimes so something that happens to you in this lifetime could be the result of a past life unfulfilled karmic debt. It may seem unfair because you don't remember the events, but it doesn't matter, it was your soul that acquired the debt like it or not.

If you don't believe in reincarnation realize that reincarnation is not just life after death, coming back to a new life after you die. We reincarnate every second we're alive, every time we wake up in the morning... Every moment is an opportunity to change everything. The first step is taking responsibility for your life, for the fact that everything that happens to you now, in the past and in the future, is the accumulated result of a domino effect YOU set into motion some time ago, or in this very moment (for future events).

Regardless of how random or unrelated something seems, it is all tied together, and everything your going through, is your fault. This is not limited to it ONLY being your fault, and it's not limited to anyone else being involved.

What I mean here is that you had a part in everything that's ever happened to you whether you simply made a choice to be in the wrong place at the wrong time or if your selfish side surfaced for whatever reason- and if you got hit by a guy racing on a bike while you crossed the street- that too is your fault for being on that street and all the choices you made that put you there.

It seems unfair to be responsible for something so random happening to you- but if it makes you feel better your only responsible for being there, for not looking, for not preparing ahead of time and always looking around- the price you pay to not have to do this is getting hit by a random biker. Make sense?

Most people don't seem to want to accept this fact and thus continue to chase their tail. Personally I don't pretend to understand what cause ended up creating my current effects, but one thing I know, realizing that I did it somehow somewhere... I can actually take back the wheel of my life and start controlling the outcomes more lucidly of what happens or how I handle what happens next. I also don't feel helpless in the world even on a horrendousely bad day of being chased by my own poltergeist (see that article I wrote for the definition of poltergeist as I mean it).

It's simply a matter of not feeling like a victim. If something bad happens to me, my first thought is, how did this happen? (not why) What did I do to deserve this (not why is this happening to me).

Now I don't think "I don't deserve this", I think I know I did it or my choices resulted in this outcome, but I'd like to figure out what it was so I won't repeat it.

I don't feel victimized by life, at least not since I started really diving deep into the concept of "responsibility for my life, all things that happen to me and things I cause to happen, even if not on purpose).

I got some karma coming to me from many past years, I'm sure... So I just grin and bear it and try to elminate new bad karma by living my life ethically, passionately, and helping others as much as I can. You can't run from yourself, many try and trip over their own ego...

Just some insights I learned from and practice myself... thought I'd share.