Betrayed at Work! When Your Company Lets You Down

by TessaSchlesinger

by Tessa Schlesinger. Most people face difficult days at work. The crux comes when, in spite of all effort, they are betrayed by bosses and colleagues at work.

If you’re reading this, then, no doubt, someone, somewhere, betrayed you at the office or your company betrayed you by doing one of several things. Perhaps, it was a promise of a promotion that never materialized, or perhaps it was a confidence that was breached. Perhaps, you accepted a job, relocated at high cost, only to find that the job did not fit the description of the job you had accepted. Betrayal in the workplace comes in all shapes and sizes.

Job Description Not Accurate

It has been estimated that 85% of resumes comprise some lies, exaggerations, or other fantasies. What fewer have mentioned is that job descriptions, likewise, promote a picture of a highly desirable career path, when in reality, it is anything but. Who would not fall for a job that advertises that there is rapid promotion only to find after arrival that while there may be rapid promotion for some, the staff turnover is pretty rapid as well. Some companies, particularly in sales, have a ‘burn and turn’ policy which means that they know that the employee will resign once the discovery is made that all is not as it was advertised. This does not deter the company from using their methods; indeed, they’re quite comfortable with a high staff over as it is means that staff salaries are kept very low.

Promise of Promotion at Work not Kept

Sometimes, the offer of a better position with the same company keeps one working long after others have taken off for the day. Bosses mention their pleasure at the worker’s dedication and indicate that that kind of loyalty and input will earn a promotion. Two years later, when a senior position finally opens up, the boss man installs his nephew.

Promises of Better Pay
Arianna Huffington grew her business by either paying pittance to professionals or nothing at all. Most writers got paid nothing. This takes the promise by management to reward good word to an extreme. Yet, it is a growing trend. Young hopefuls join companies with the promise that their measly starting salary will be increased as soon as they prove that their output is worth it. Two years later, that promise is still smoke in the wind. When one asks, one is told the company doesn’t have any money (which doesn’t explain why the shareholders just got paid their best bounty ever).

Job stress raises blood pressure
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Office Gossip: Words said in Confidence Repeated to Others

Office politics is a big one. Who hasn’t suffered at the hands of the office gossip or been sabotaged by an ambitious and unethical colleague? Unfortunately, office politics pays off big time, so it’s not going to go away anytime soon. Office politics normally flourish in companies where the only thing that matters is the bottom line! That’s the bottom line of the company, not the bottom line of the employee.

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What To Do When Betrayed in the Work Place

Betrayal in the work place is almost as painful as a more personal betrayal. In one way, though, it could have even worse consequences as it involves one’s livelihood. So, how does one handle betrayal in the work place?

It really depends on what the situation is.

Here are some methods that work, depending on the particular situation.

1. If the company has made one redundant after three decades, find the person with whom you had the best relationship and who is the most senior. Offer your services as a freelancer and to come in when they need extra help. Tell them, that you will need to charge a bit more but that it’s a win-win situation. They get to pay less in terms of annual salary and you get to earn more in the short term.

2. The moment one learns that one’s work has been ‘stolen’ by another, the rumor mill is your best friend. Confiding in someone that you can’t be sure but that you think the work is remarkably like your own is sure to get around. Eventually, it will reach the right ears – especially if the initial comment was made to someone who was well placed to repeat the rumor.

3. When the job description is less than accurate, you have a few options.

a. First, you need to know whether it’s a company that practices a burn and turn policy. If it is, fight fire with fire. Don’t moan that they deceived you. Use their time to find another job.

b. If the company does not have a burn and turn policy, approach the person who hired you and immediately express your concerns. Your approach should be that your salary expectations were in line with the work that you had been led to believe you would be doing. As this is not so, you would want to be more fairly reimbursed and would like an increase in your salary for the additional skills required. If they do not give it to you, go to the labor department. If they’re doing it to you; they’re doing it to others!

c. Do the extra tasks and look around for another job. Be aware that companies that are unethical in the treatment of their staff don’t change their behavior.

d. Keep quiet. Do the work. Prove that you’re better than good. Perhaps, you’ll get an increase and a promotion. But don’t hold your breath too long. Some companies have a vested interest in glamorizing the job description to get people to work for them that wouldn’t work there otherwise!

4. The office gossip is best responded to by taking the bull by the horns,”Oh, I heard Anna say that you said that Mona was …. “ Let her do the talking. Never commit yourself to anything. It will come back later to bite your.

5. Someone else has taken your promotion? In a market where jobs are scarce, it might be better to have a job without promotion rather than no job at all. Best option is to approach your boss and ask why you never got the promotion when it was promised to you. Whatever the reason, your next step is to ask for reimbursement for all the extra effort you put in. In a way, promising someone a promotion and then not giving it to them could be considered a breach of contract. Sometimes, it’s also a good idea to bypass the person who promised the promotion to you (and, therefore, got you to work many long hours without reimbursement), and go to their superior and tell them that you’re sure the company doesn’t do business this way, so could they find another promotion for you elsewhere in the company.

6. Promise of better pay is a big one. It’s the carrot in front of the donkey. When it isn’t coming, you need to ask why. You also need to explain that you put in a lot of overtime on the basis that you would be receiving more pay. If the pay isn’t forthcoming, please could they reimburse you for extra hours you put in. You probably won’t get it, but you won’t be working any more extra hours either.

Betrayed at work
Pamela Kruger is a writer, editor and communications strategist with an expertise in legal, business, parenting and womens issues.Pamela Kruger is a writer, editor and communications strategist with an expertise in legal, business, parenting and wome

Betrayal in the Work Place

All in all, it’s about power. While a show of power isn’t the same thing as having the power, sometimes bosses don’t always know that you’re bluffing. The point is always to appear confident and controlled and to let the hirer know that you are not happy with their unethical acts. If you know that the actual hirer will not respond well to your requests, then it’s best to look for his managers up line. Always come across as extremely shocked that this was done to you and it couldn’t possibly be the actions of the company (You want them on your side) and so it must be the actions of one lone individual. Also, because you don’t want to antagonize the big boss (in case the hirer is a personal friend), you need to cover your rear end by admitting that you are less than certain as to why this person promised you this and went back on his words. Your very innocent, “Has he had personal issues that have recently interfered with his normal good judgment?” could also win your some friends.

Unfortunately, betrayal in the work place is a tough deal. It’s one of those places where you have to fight fire with fire. The only winner is the boss, but you may get to see things improve for a while. Don't kid yourself that it's a permanent situation. When you've been betrayed once, use your time to find something else...


Updated: 03/21/2013, TessaSchlesinger
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TessaSchlesinger on 03/05/2013

Hi RubyHelenRose. In the UK, a study done ten or twelve years ago were those who owned their own small business and the unhappiest were those in middle management (get it from the bottom and the top, I suppose) in corporations.

RubyHelenRose on 03/05/2013

Very good read, very true. My stress level is much lower now that I don't work for an employer.

TessaSchlesinger on 01/17/2013

Thank you RebeccaE. :)

RebeccaE on 01/17/2013

so very true and so very accurate, well done.

TessaSchlesinger on 01/17/2013

Mira, thank you. It's a horrific problem. I think that work is the source of a lot of stress. It shouldn't be, but it is. Brenda, agreed. I actually could never work in a corporation again. Too much ugliness!

BrendaReeves on 01/17/2013

This is why it's best to work for yourself.

Mira on 01/17/2013

Very good article and some great advice. Much appreciated.

TessaSchlesinger on 01/16/2013

Ragtimelil, it's one of the most unspoken about topics in the world. The things that most people have to live through at work is destroying the health and wellbeing of more than half the population.

Ragtimelil on 01/16/2013

So so accurate. That's why I'm living on a meager income. I simply cannot work for most companies ever again!

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