To all of you who are terrified of flying in airplanes (like me), let me start by saying the following few words: YOU ARE NOT SICK, DOOMED, HOPELESS, WEAK, (fill in the blank)...In the grand scheme of life, in what really matters on this planet, this is not a character defect in you.
The reason it has become an "illness" and termed a phobia in need of curing, with hypnosis and all sorts of remedies out there to be had, is because it is a convenience our instant gratification society "must have." People fly for their jobs, to go overseas, to see family when there is limited vacation time available or to get somewhere in an emergency. It's the norm now, that's all.
But let us begin with a reality check. One hundred years ago, a mere "blip" on the screen of the entire span of time, nobody flew. There are people alive right now who were never labeled phobic or weak...because there were no planes to fly in! Somehow, man has survived...
I don't like scuba diving either...if my family lived at the bottom of the ocean in some future underwater city, I wouldn't swim with the sharks in the vast darkness of the sea to visit, either.
So my first "tip" is to get you in the right frame of mind:
YOU DON'T HAVE TO LIKE TO FLY...YOU DON'T HAVE TO FLY...AND THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH YOU IF YOU DON'T LIKE IT. It isn't natural, it isn't mandatory and it certainly isn't a mental defect. It does have perks and can be rewarding, so the following tips are for those who still want/need to get into the air...but just wanted to remind you that you don't have to.
I love seeing the sights...on the ground. I live in an rv full time, and that is fine with me. Amtrak was my best friend when I moved out west, 2,000 miles from family (love trains, by the way). I just let myself be who I am, and that worked just fine with me.
I know people who love to fly, who are terrified of roller coasters, swimming...things I enjoy. There are people who like to fly but can't because they can't afford it (and they get by). To each his own. I am not going to ever climb Mt. Everest, wrestle alligators nor am I flying unless I decide I want to (more on that later).
So let's move on to tips on how to overcome fear of flying, for those who have decided to fly, but are terrified to do so...