How to Find the Love I Want and Get Love in Return?

by katiem2

Learn how to find a person who will love you back find your true love soul mate figure out the type of love and lover you really want how to find it get it and keep it.

Love is both a feeling and an action. The things we do to act out our feelings for one another are the actions keeping the feelings of love alive and well. Anytime love comes to a halt the feelings are replaced with those of loneliness and pain. This goes back to the simple truth we human beings truly need and crave love no matter how strong so many of us claim to be on our own, claiming to need no one. Secretly we all long to be in a loving relationship, surrounded by a supportive group of family and friends. We are all capable of both giving and receiving great love. Follow along as we explore the simple facts and steps to love fully and love for life.

How to Love the way I Truly Want

How to Love Fully and Love For a Life Time

Love is something we all need to be healthy, happy and successful human beings enjoying life to the fullest. We all want long and pleasurable loving relationships in our lives, the kind that last a lifetime and yet many struggle with loneliness giving up any and all hope of ever finding true love. 

First and foremost, never stop loving. We humans have this incredible self destructive habit of turning away from the possibility of love once we've experienced rejection or the painful end to a once loving relationship.

The Universal Language of Love

How the love you want is matched by the love another wants.

We must get it through our heads, we need love as we need food and water. Once we face the void of love we can move on to the market place of life to find new and nourishing food or love to flourish and be fulfilled.

We may not always have an intimate relationship with the opposite sex and that's okay however we do need love period. It can be a loving group of friends and family. The point is to remain a loving person both sharing and receiving love.

The Ways of Love Right and Wrong

Love need not be defined by anyone other than the one seeking love.

So hear this; Never stop loving! Reach out, love friends and family surrounding yourself with people you love and admire. Never isolate yourself, no matter how tempting it is don't go down that road don't do it, avoid it like the plague as it is a cold dark place that can swallow you up.

Second we are never to expect anything in return. Love is a gift you give away without expecting something in return; this is the beauty of love.

Simply love for the sake of love without the concern others will love you back as they in no way are entitled to do so. It is when you no longer worry about how others react or respond to your loving gestures that you enjoy honest love free of awkward moments or expectation.

Love Yourself and Others

Love is a common bond we all share.

Never allow yourself to be mistreated. Don’t force your love on another. Express love in appropriate ways respecting others privacy and personal choice to love you back or not. If the love is reciprocated wonderful if not move on and try again. We are loving creatures and it is natural for us to love over and over again to many varying degrees.

How to Find Unconditional Love

Love unconditionally and expect the same in return.

How to Love Unconditionally 

Third is to love unconditionally without stipulation.

If you attach agreements or expectations to love it is not love at all its an attempt to control.

If you admire one lovingly with no intentions of changing or improving them you are expressing unconditional love and that’s the perfect measure of true love.

You may ask yourself the question; can I improve this persons life being an attribute to their already wonderful qualities expecting no change or improvements?

How to Love with Empathy

Empathy is a vital ingredient when it comes to loving others.

Fourth is to practice empathy you can do so by putting yourself in the other person’s shoes.

Never impose your personal expectations or control on another yet look deeply into the person they are and embrace their natural personality.

This step is a major key to unconditional love. If you can not find complete and total respect and admiration for a person it's not a good idea to enter into a relationship with hope of changing or fixing them. Compatibility and acceptance is vital to love fully and love for life.

Is This Love Fleeting or Lasting

Love is not always everlasting yet sometimes seasonal.

Fifth is to realize love can be fleeting, ever changing, come to an end and love can indeed be lost unexpected and suddenly. 

Once you develop a habit of thinking of others as individuals you could lose at any given time you come to have a greater appreciation for them and are less prone to take them for granted .

Be forever grateful you have someone to love and do just that, love them.

We never know how much time we have with another, make every second count.

Is Love a Necessarily Part of Life?

Yes, We all need love in our lives;
sheilamarie on 05/27/2013

Definitely. And I agree, this is not just a question of a sexual relationship but a love for friends, neighbors, children, and even pets. People need to express love to be healthy.

kelly on 05/25/2013

I just got dumped and although painful I can't help but wonder and fantasize about an even better love out there for me some where.

caiin on 05/23/2013

Yes we do need love.

teddletonmr on 05/23/2013


SusieQ on 05/21/2013


Guest on 05/21/2013

I think we all need love. But I am starting to realize that I must receive my Father God's love first. Without EXPERIENCING his love, there's still a vacuum in my life.

WriterArtist on 05/21/2013

Love is a necessary part of our life.

AnomalousArtist on 05/13/2013

The movies make love seem like it can and should come so easily but the real rewards seem to come from persistence and determination...and a loving relationship with yourself and/or someone else is the best reward I can imagine!

GermanUtopia on 05/11/2013

Yes, of course! Without love, that would be a very sad (or even cruel) life. Love give us a great personal power. And beside the love to persons (the loved one or also good friends and family) we should also love what we do in life - and do what we love.

RubyHelenRose on 04/29/2013

Love is number one in my book

Updated: 01/31/2015, katiem2
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katiem2 on 07/02/2013

Thanks Sandy

sandyspider on 06/28/2013

Great topic. I just LOVE this.

katiem2 on 05/30/2013

marciag, Thanks for adding to the conversation, good to hear from you.

marciag on 05/30/2013

Great topic indeed and I fully agree, without love there is I think no humanity at all. Great books too, btw.

katiem2 on 05/27/2013

sheilamarie, What a lovely compliment, thank you so much and great hearing from you.

sheilamarie on 05/27/2013

What a great topic to write a wizz about, Katie. This is one of your best yet! I agree with your points -- love is an essential part of being human, or maybe of being alive.

katiem2 on 05/25/2013

Kelly, That is terrible, by text, the easy way out. But you have the right idea, go ahead fantasize about your next adventure in love imagine the perfect person just for you and how lucky you were free to experience it.

kelly on 05/25/2013

Great advice, thank you for the therapy session. I was just dumped by text and am in the pain phase. Im so glad I found this web site. Bookmarking your name and page.

Todd on 05/24/2013


katiem2 on 05/23/2013

Caitlin, Thank you for the supportive feedback.

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