You are not here by accident. It was not destiny either. It wasn't by chance or luck either. What brought you to this specific space, at this specific time was just idle human nature. The past, the present or the future - which controls your view is an amateur writer's insight into what makes you tick. Yes, what makes you tick as a person. If you do not realize that you and your view is precisely your problem, then hopefully by the time you are done reading, you'll have come to that self realization and will actually want to do something about it.
Personally, I have no vested interest in what you do or how you live your life or even how you view your life, because in the end, it is your problem, one which, I have no say in. Change is a wonderful thing and should you feel it is necessary to hold in your present status, then I can only say that I am saddened that you would think that.