Have you dealt with and considered what the in your face beast ego is? Do you wonder what’s wrong with the annoying self absorbed people touting their abilities and accomplishments? Are these people really better than you? Why it is some people feel such an intense need for attention, to be heard or worse yet admired by those around them? Why is it these types feel so superior or worthy of your adoration coming to expect it? Is the false adoration others show them real or an attempt to quiet the arrogant person they other wise want to shut up and go away? Your ego has a huge impact on your life, do you know to what degree? Follow along as we explore what it is, how it controls your life, holds you back and keeps you from your true potential.
What Makes Some People Arrogant - The Ego
Do you wonder what's wrong with the annoying self absorbed people touting their abilities and accomplishments? Are these people really better than you? No they are not in fact...
What is Ego?
First let us understand Ego, Ego is defined in Webster's as - The self especially as contrasted with another self or the world.
It's you comparing the person you naturally are given your life’s experiences, education and social skills to the image society envisions as successful. Many people become addicted to being better than the norm. Few people have yet to learn or even consider the true meaning of ego and the benefit of this knowledge. Just as you've made many attempts to better yourself it will not occur until you know and understand the truth about ego, that which is you according to your thoughts!
Until you embrace this reality you may continue on the path of self humiliation as you repeatedly attempt to tout your value over those around you. True greatness is humility, the ability to quite your mouth and do merely for the purpose of being a positive contribution to society no accolades required. Can you honestly say you function as such? Maybe you reject this idea as your ego is all consuming and driving you by other means.
Thinking Arrogant Thoughts
Arrogant thoughts can be all consuming and counter productive.
The ego is accumulative thoughts stored away in your brain conditioned to respond to any given stimuli or event in day to day life. In addition, the affects of these thoughts are what you believe yourself to be and more to the point, be capable of achieving. You then compare yourself, or the speculated idea of self, to others in the world.
You unjustly judge yourself on a harsh and regular basis in the end coming to a false conclusion. This is a misguided journey, a lie that has been handed to you by anything other than your true self which is your guide to true potential, happiness and peace.
The Self Destructive Ego
One should be aware of ego to gain insights as to its destructive power and the vast possibilities of life without it.
Ego will always be there and yet you can learn to exist and evolve without the controlling impact of ego crashing down on your life. The key to this is peace. Peace is achieved upon awareness of ego and the separate true power within. The true reality of life is not ego therefore not your conditioned thought. The truth is a built in instinct without the struggle of reason, an acceptance of yourself as you really are not the self you manufacture in your mind.
Your true self does not meet the requirements of society or a delusional exaggeration of the expectations brought on you by society. Finding ones self void of ego works best when one operates in peace, without the influence of worldly or self absorb arrogant thought.
Peaceful Self Verses Arrogant Self
There is none among us who don't truly longing for the calm of peace. The need is a basic desire deep inside, it is our driving force. Just as we long for peace, there is something within us that craves conflict. This is the ego. The ego operates through the mind. The mind always wants to be right. This brings to light those annoying people we deal with. They allow their minds to constantly scream out for attention and acceptance. They demand the conceit of others admitting their credits regardless as to how true or false it may be. The mind rationalizes in order for it to be right it must prove others wrong. This creates conflict, thus war with peace. In the end many allow ego to create a tug of war in their lives. These people ultimately miss out on their true, modest and peaceful potential however great it may be.
As it's been said when you argue with a fool, two fools argue. It is to this reason we, whom are not arrogant, may choose not to participate with arrogant people; we can ignore the noise they create.
Choosing Peace – Ignoring Arrogance
Peace understands we are all right in our own individuality.
Peace knows there is room for everyone to flourish and thrive. Most people are completely chained to the voice in the head, the incessant flow of involuntary and compulsive thoughts and emotions. We could go as far as to say, possessed by the mind with all its ranting and raving claiming to be something it is not.
Unaware of this, you identify as being the thinker and yet you are not the thinker yet a being whose mind is capable of thought. We are beings capable of being controlled by the collection of thoughts accumulated over time. You see yourself as your thoughts, when in reality you are not. Believing yourself to be summed up by your thoughts is the ego. Any time we allow the thoughts and pressures of society to determine who we are we become consumed by ego, the thoughts creating arrogance.
Who You Think You Are
All the thoughts in your head are accumulative, vastly misconceived ideas programmed by the world around you.
Everyday of life your brain readily stores information. Not all thoughts are bad or misdirected and yet it is those which propel the ego to the forefront of our personalities if we so allow. Our thoughts outlining how we think we should speak, look, feel, act, eat, dress, learn, grow, achieve and on and on the thinking goes. We draw from this information upon request daily activities generate. Just because the information is stored and can easily be retrieved does not make these thoughts the best option for the given situation. They are just thoughts, others thoughts and ideas presented to you. It’s been said we are creatures of habit, allowing stored thoughts to constantly determine the outcome of each day makes us such, we can opt out! The brain does not discriminate determining which thoughts should be kept or thrown out. Thoughts persist and remain. Often we find ourselves feeling thoughts we'd rather not and even worse, controlled by them. These thoughts lead us down a path of regret.
Take Your Life Back
So how do we harness the direction in which we wish to go? We must identify with the reality of the better option.
We are not dependent on our thoughts, nor do we need them to enjoy life to the fullest. Thoughts are like ingredients in a pantry, we need not toss every ingredient into each task. Imagine the mess in doing so. As we become aware of all the vast ingredients or thoughts we can note the necessity for any given thought at any given time. We can reject thoughts!
The better option is our true self, our spirit yearning from within oppressed by the thoughts which have beaten down the reality of our real potential. We're not just the mass of thoughts shoved into our brains by anyone we've ever come in contact with. Imagine that for a moment. Really, stop and feel what that means. Be still, quiet and feel how all you've read so far reasons with your self, the true self within you.
The mind is powerful and yet there is something even more powerful. All that’s needed to tap into this power is the awareness of the ego and its presence in your life. The one thing needed to free yourself and others from the grips of ego is being aware of it, understanding it for what it really is. The ego and awareness are incompatible. Just like a car cannot move both in forward and reverse, your life cannot be controlled both by the ego and awareness.
Awareness is your true self. It is the key to creativity, love and true purpose.
Awareness is the powerful energizing force dwelling within you similar to that which orbits the planets. It is powerful. As you grow more aware, your life will change each day heading in new and amazing direction. Thoughts that once controlled your life will soon fall away without your dwelling upon them as you now realize awareness has given you a new path. Enjoy you new life!