Why Do I Overeat?

by katiem2

The cycle of constant eating is a vicious one so many struggle with, lets talk about what makes you overeat, what you can do about it and just how common overeating is.

I've long been thinking about why people overeat and why I sometimes overeat, in fact why anyone overeats. Hard cold truth is this, some of us develop or have issues with food and one good binge could send us over the edge and into a serious eating disorder. Is overeating a serious and deep rooted problem or another aspect of the human condition? I believe over eating can be a rarity and a habit. I'm both very curious and practical so when this question presented itself I knew I had to take it on. I like most everyone have loved ones near and dear to me who are overweight and so I worry about this issue. I decided it was worth a good debate and so I dug deep to find out what I could that might be helpful. in doing so I revealed a good bit of useful information and so now I will share my findings and enlist your thoughts and feelings to expand and really dissect the topic of overeating.

Why I Overeat

Why I Binge Eat

While I've researched my way through piles of books and journals, all explaining why we overeat, the facts rang hollow. I'm a people person; I read people and get them at their core.  I decided to do the human thing, think of my real life experiences and observations. While soul searching for the truth a simple answer came to mind. This answer beats the drum of truth so loudly it can no longer be ignored.

Why I Overeat

The reason we mere mortals overeat is because we have to eat to live and living is most often about eating.

 We have to eat to live but all too often we find ourselves living to eat at outings, events, celebrations, functions or meetings and eating things we normally would not nor should not. 

It becomes expected that we eat to maintain good health and energy, food is life and we all want to live well often confusing wellness with well off.  

When we want or need material things but find the particular item we want to be out of reach, not affordable or impractical, we feel deprived and perhaps even a failure unable to afford the object of our desire.  Situations such as these make us depressed and with the feelings of deprivation we sometimes self sooth the only way we can afford to do so, food.  Food is easily accessible, it is affordable and we cannot deny ourselves food after all we need it to live.  Splurging on a special food item to brighten our day is a deeply rooted ritual that can be found in all the celebrations of our lives, holidays, birthdays and a whole other multitude of food oriented moments prompting us to turn to food when all else fails.

We can all relate and once you think about it the problem becomes clear.  The best way to solve this problem is to identify it for what it is a habit.  Yes, a big fat habit we have been conditioned to do all the days of our lives.  WE are creatures of habit and what must we do to rid ourselves of a bad habit, you guessed it, replace it with a good habit or better yet habits!

Anyone who is not affected by the constant presence of food is in the minority. Eating is often done mindlessly and with a knee jerk reaction.  We tend to forget about what we put in our mouths until we begin to fight our way into our clothes. 

We must fill our lives with good food understanding it is perfectly fine to turn food down, refuse to eat, do so in a polite manner in fact a basic and simple “NO” does the trick.  Most people won’t force feed you and most others desire to do the same, stop eating all the time and get healthy lose weight, feel fit, alive and energized, be one of those people.

Food Offers Comfort

Food is a source of nurture and comfort from the time we're born till the time we die, it is the one thing we can depend on and control.

The word control is a big factor when it comes to overeating. While the events of any day can be good or bad we are sometimes powerless having no control of the outcome. The one thing we can control is what we put in our mouth. It feels good to eat anything we want whenever we want. Today we examine the serious and painful issue of overeating with much thought and concern.  I’ll share with you my take on why you, me or everyone else over eats from time to time. Plus everyone visiting can chime in leaving their thoughts and experiences on the topic.

Why do I overeat? Because it feels good! When we feel down and out, exhausted from a long day full of stress and nonsense a comforting spa getaway is not realistic. We need to ease the pain, stress and flat out feel good! We humans are constantly seeking whatever it is that makes us feel good. In many cases it’s food. 


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Learning how common overeating is can help all of us address our individual overeating habits.

Build a Reward SYSTEM

Treat Yourself

Build a reward system, treat yourself any day you make it through without overeating. Rewards give you incentive to stay the course.  It takes days, weeks and sometimes months to break the food habit.  I personally like money.

For everyday you don't binge, pig out or overeat reward yourself by putting a dollar or more into a jar, keep the jar where you can see it and watch it grow. 

Once there is enough money in the jar to buy yourself something nice, not food, buy it, reward yourself.  


Life’s Ups and Down's

Often life takes a toll on us, sometimes it's expected and most times it's not.

It's moments like these when we need to be cared for, made to feel alright or cheered up. If only we could hear, everything will be alright. As adults this often is not the case and we are left to our own defenses.

There is the one thing that makes us feel good. This thing is convenient and yet associated with people gathering together who love one another to celebrate. It is food!

We can always reach for food to feel better. It reminds us of those feel good moments, celebrations and gathering with family and friends.

Why, because when we're down, hurt or struggling and need to feel better food is both handy and nurturing. It allows us to take care of ourselves when it seems the world around us is oblivious to our pain. 

BUT wait, that is not what we are aiming for and so we must get creative.  Water is crucial for good health and drinking enough water can be a healthy habit to stave off overeating. Splurge on a fancy high tech water bottle or mineral water to satisfy the urge to purge.  

INFUSION WATER IS AMAZING and one of my favorite healthy addictions, if feels like splurging.

How to Stop Overeating

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Find Comfort Without Food

The go to response to both celebration and hardship is most always food.

We can find other ways to nurture ourselves without overeating. Things that make us feel good other than food; Some options are;

  • The sun, sunshine raises our feel good hormones and while winter is a prime time to over eat we can feel even better by soaking up some rays.
  • Set down to watch a good movie, preferable comedy. Laughter is good medicine and makes you feel much better than food, plus all that laughter also burns calories!
  • Rearrange a room; this makes us feel refreshed and new. It feels great to improve our surroundings by rearranging a room.
  • Plus house work is great exercise and makes for a great new hang out to watch those movies feeling even better.
  • Munch on sunflowers, I like the ones in the shell, they are an activity that gives us something to concentrate on refreshing the mind plus they are happy food!
  • Sunflower seeds are a source of protein and fiber rich in selenium a nutrient that makes us instantly feel good, happier and almost as quickly as we can eat them.

The Truth About Overeating

The truth about overeating is we all do it from time to time and yet some of us are suffering more and need a more permanent fix.

Why? Feeding someone is taking care of them. We were fed by our parents, when we were sick to make us better and so it seems when we feel bad we instinctively need to experience the same. This validates our feelings.

It seems feeding someone or yourself is a really good way to take care of them, making it all better. It makes us feel all warm, loved and safe.

When the world beats us up we need to be nurtured and food is readily available to meet the need. When we can't be hugged and cheered up with physical attention and words of encouragement we reach for food to feel the void.

Food Feels Good

Food symbolizes healing and celebration. When in a difficult situation we can do nothing about we can always reach for food.  No one can tell us we can't toss a cookie or chips into our mouth and we can do so till the entire bag is gone. Plus we can eat any type of cookie or chips we want. Food is the one thing we can have any way any time we want it. It gives us back some sense of control regardless of how fleeting.

Food is the one thing we can control with positive strings attached to our fondest memories. Understanding this very powerful need and desire to be nurtured is the key to freedom.

Overcoming Overeating

We must reprogram our responses for the need to be nurtured by creating new habits.

New studies have found short 5 minute burst of exercise offer feel good benefits. For those of us who simply hate to work out this is good news. We can manage 5 minutes of movement of some sort. Turn on the radio and dance around. This stimulates the production of feel good pheromones. This creates a positive and more effective response.

It's not rocket science all you need to do is elevate your heart rate a bit exert the body enough to single the brain to release good endorphin's  Exercise is a great habit that helps keeps the lows away creating the need to overeat.

Try as many routines as it takes to find one right and pleasing to you. You may hate one, two or even three, but keep trying till you find the one you fall in love with. It can feel powerful to feed ourselves. In all reality short burst of quick exercise can make us feel a significant amount better than food and the positive results are longer lasting.

The Simple Way to Cure Overeating

A good nights rest is crucial to any normal and healthy body functions when you don't get the proper rest you eat more.

Sleep is vital to dealing with stress. We need a long nap; a good night’s sleep or some much needed down time. It’s important to take the occasional road trip or hide out at home watching a movie marathon and sleeping in are all good medicine. Maybe it's a long bike ride we long for or a jog.

No questions asked it's a food fix that makes us feel cared for and valuable. Knowing and accepting this opens a new concept as to how we can better address these real and valid needs. The truth is overeating is a human condition most all of us come face to face with. No one should ever feel bad about overeating from time to time this only makes it worse.

There is nothing wrong with you, you are not weak, you just need to get some relief as do all living creatures. Building a strong sense of self is one of the most powerful gifts you can give yourself.

So the next time you feel the urge to eat something you shouldn't when you shouldn't think of other ways to self-nurture.

It could be a nice trip to the hair dresser, buying a new garment, rent a funny movie or visiting old folks in the nursing home.

Help someone who can't help themselves it is by doing this you nurture yourself as well.

House keeping for Overaters

Remember the power of your surroundings. Your home or living space makes you feel good if you take care making it the best it can be. Worry and frustration manifest from a messy home. It makes us feel bad and therefore sets the mood to overeat, or worse closet eat.

Love yourself by loving your home or surroundings, making it inviting for you, friends and family. Every time you feel the urge to overeat, do one thing to improve your home. You will feel good and redirect your energy to something positive.

Often times it's in the knowing why that we find the cure. You may apply lipstick when you feel the urge to eat or take a hot bath. There are so many things to shift your thoughts of food plus make you feel better.

So focus on making you and your surroundings more beautiful and comfortable. Coming home to this provides you with a nurturing environment to feel relaxed, rested and healed, not to mention valuable.

Updated: 02/11/2020, katiem2
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katiem2 on 06/07/2017

DerdriuMarriner I like filtered water, I do enjoy S. Pellegrino on a regular basis but keep it to one serving a day.

frankbeswick on 05/19/2017

I think that comfort eating is a problem, for many people use food as emotional fuel. This goes for drinking as well. Perhaps we need to solve the problem of overeating by getting to the emotional roots of the individual eater's problems.

DerdriuMarriner on 05/19/2017

katiem2, Your product line shows that there's a helpful amount of reading material for overeaters. It seems to me that appreciating water can help overeaters, particularly if it's sipped on before and throughout a regular meal. Do you prefer water straight up or with carbonation or flavoring?

katiem2 on 10/19/2015

Hillary, I would def talk to my doctor about this, WHY because there are medications that can help deal with what sounds to me like a chemical imbalance, I say so because I have hypersomnia, meaning excessive daytime sleepiness. My doctor prescribed Modifinal and it works like crazy BUT I noted I do not crave any of the foods I before wished did not. In fact my appetite is next to nothing now. It works to help over eaters or so I have researched this. This medication may not be the one for you but it is worth the conversation with your doctor. It also does not cause weight gain, in fact I lost five pounds the first week I took it. Also Wellbutrin is another good drug that does not cause weight gain, it gives you a boost of energy and in some cases people have lost weight. I do not have the answer for your particular situation but I know there is one. Health and Happiness to you and thank you so much for sharing. So many of us suffer with this. :) Katie

katiem2 on 10/19/2015

frankbeswick, meditation is a powerful tool. :)Katie

katiem2 on 10/19/2015

Mira, Thanks for adding to the why do i overeat forum.

Mira on 09/08/2015

Katie gives some great advice here. I'd second her to say that exercise is very important. It will make you feel great. Trying going to the gym or running with a friend, and spending more time outdoors. It may just be a strong first step to a healthier, happier you. If that fails, I'm with Frank: seek some professional help.

frankbeswick on 09/08/2015

Seek professional help. While the source may well be loneliness, the cure is hard to effect without assistance. Try meditation, in whatever religious or philosophical system you adopt, it fosters mind control.

Hillary on 09/07/2015

I'm a compulsive over eater and I'm constantly dieting to counter act my bingeing. I'm so ashamed. I've been in a relationship for 5 years and have been married to him for one year and just recently I confessed my eating disorder. He tells me "that's ok, just stop and everything will be fine" just stop? If only it was that easy. I can't begin to tell you how many times I have tried to just stop. I hate my body and I hate myself but there's not a damn thing I can do about it. I've managed to stay under 160 lbs but I have a goal of 130. On my wedding day I weighed 138 lbs ! I was almost there. During my weight loss I would binge once a week and counter it with cleanses and laxatives to maintain my weight. During that time I had to have my appendix removed and I'm almost positive my eating disorder and abusive behavior caused this. After my wedding my husband had to leave again for training in the marines. During that time he was gone I gained 15 lbs in 2 weeks and the other 5 shortly after. My husband loves me more than anything but he knew something was up. He asked me what happened, why I gained it all back. He said I looked so happy and looked more confident. I'm stuck in a vicious cycle of self sabotage and I don't know how to get out of it. I can't bring myself to tell my husband about my abuse of laxatives and cleanses. I'm so ashamed. I spend the majority of my time alone do to his service in the military and I know he will no longer trust me if I tell him what I'm doing.

katiem2 on 11/02/2013

Cathy, Thanks for the tip and glad to hear you've figured out what your issue was.

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