From time to time, someone will appeal to my self interest. “But if you do it this way, people will like you.” “If you write it this way, you will win the competition.” “If you stop doing that, you will get more followers.” “If you behave in this way, you will gain respect.” “If you sell that, I can pay you 10% commission.” And so it goes. Throughout my life, I have had one response to this. I have done exactly the opposite to what was requested or suggested, often sabotaging my own life in the process. Why is that?
There are two reasons. The first is that by appealing to my supposed self interest, they have suggested that I have a lack of integrity by putting my own well-being ahead of the well-being of the rest of humanity, and the second is that they are trying to manipulate me by appealing to my ‘self-interest’ so that they can get what they want. In reality, it’s their own interests they are serving, not mine, and not humanity.