- It Kind of Smells
Everyone has something they have always wanted to do. If you don’t actually do it, well it starts to become resentment. It sits there on the couch with you and smells. You bring it up and say “if only” and then proceed to feel like a failure. Then you put it back down and list the reasons why you can’t do it just to make yourself feel better, and the cycle continues. Eventually, you add so much to your couch that you barely fit. You sit there with your smelly resentment and fears and push others away and become a not so fun person.
Really you are doing a public service by cleaning up your couch. You become a better person.
Also, not only will you free yourself of resentment but you will encourage others to clean their couches as well.
- Fine is SO NOT FINE
“Fine” really is a loaded word. It’s better than bad but worse than awesome. Its stuck in this limbo of ‘eh’ things could be worse and please save me by delving into why I am only ‘fine’.
No one wants to be told they look fine, smell fine, and even have fine ideas. It’s just not a word that elicits warm fuzzy thoughts and happy rainbows.
So don’t use it and don’t think it.
If you end up in a situation where you feel ‘fine’ surface, get your butt up and get the heck out of there.
Nothing thrives in ‘fine’.
‘Fine’ sits on your stinky couch with you and eats ice crème. ‘Fine’ wallows in fears and makes them bigger.
GET THE HECK AWAY FROM ‘FINE’!
- Really Though, What Could Happen
So, you start the process and pick one thing to go after. You are resolved and won’t back down this time.
Oh man, but there are so many reasons why you shouldn’t do this thing. Horrible things could happen. STOP. Seriously stop.
When a fear starts to creep up you have to stop and face it, straight on. Look that sucker in the eye and dare it to follow through, break it down and make it back down.
You really want to go talk to that guy at the bar but that could be embarrassing.
Play it through: You walk up and he is not interested. You walk away embarrassed, but you’re alive and I doubt you ever see him again.
You walk up to him and he is really nice and things go well and you end up on a date.
Really, nothing horrible happens there.
You want to quit your job and travel the world but you don’t know if you can do it.
Play it through: You go for it and travel and hate it, or run out of money. So now you have to come home and be broke and right back where you started.
You go for it and it is amazing. You learn new things and meet awesome people.
So you could totally fail and end up where you are again, but you are already there now, so it can’t really be all that bad.
Playing out the worst possible scenario and really getting down to what the fear could result in helps put things in perspective. It takes the power from fear and puts it back in your pocket.
Side note: Please don’t end all your worst case scenarios in death because we are all going to die anyway. Might as well enjoy life and really live with the time you are given.
- Judgment is Jealousy
I doubt I could find a single person who is not afraid of being judged. Deny it all you want but it is ingrained in us, we want to be accepted and loved. But we are killing ourselves going about it the wrong way.
Instead of worrying about what others think and letting that manipulate our lives, why not create our lives first and let our awesomeness attract the type of people who deserve to love us.
Judgement never comes from a place of love it is bitter and unhappy. It’s in love with ‘fine’ and they are all cozy on your couch picking apart other people’s lives, because that’s what they really want to be doing.
So use it as a tool to discover yourself because often times your own jealousy portrays what you want in life, so use that and stop worrying about others.
One of my favorite sayings is as follows:
Really take a moment to let that sink in.
- FEAR IS AN ASSHOLE!
It really is though. We manifest it and hide behind it and wallow in it. But as soon as you stop giving it power over you it’s gone. Start small, analyze your fears, break them down, and move past them.
It’s that easy, because really, Fear is a choice.