Talking to Somebody Who is Deaf in One Ear
I have a friend who has trouble hearing in one ear, though not completely deaf. When I was reading your story, I cringed remembering all the times she'd say something like 'What did you say? I have trouble hearing in one ear.' (Or even better 'I've told you before I have trouble hearing in this ear.' I'm not a bad friend I swear!) And other little subtle things like that, such as a night this past December we were in a town we didn't usually visit, and we saw a friend we haven't seen in ages. She had me stop the car and she called out to him. She yelled his full name, 'turn around.' The things you learn.
"Paying so much attention to non-verbal communication means I catch what you wanted to say, rather than what you think you should say."
I know I don't pay as much attention to body language, even though linguist say something like conversation/language is 80% unspoken, ie tone and body language. I think...? Anyways, I recall a time I was asking a boss a question, but I knew based on a professional level she'd say yes no matter what. But I wasn't asking because I knew she'd help me, I also knew she was insanely busy and wanted her actual answer. So I watched for any nonverbal clues that it might not be a good time, and it was so funny to me because as, 'Yes! Of course!' came out of her mouth, she was shaking her head 'no.' Which just tells me I really do need to watch body language more, because to me that was an absolutely fascinating moment to experience.
Ember, Jan 26, 2012