Infertility is no "treat" at any time of the year, but Halloween is one of those holidays where it can become especially difficult. That might seem odd to people who have not had to cope with infertility before, but think about it: Halloween is one of those holidays where the emphasis today - at least in American society - is very much upon children. It also signals the beginning of the entire Fall/Winter holiday season that is all about celebrating "family" and can send infertile individuals and couples into a depression that lasts until the New Year comes and goes.
While some (generally childless, single, and/or young) adults may throw costume parties and check out mature horror flicks on Halloween, the bulk of the advertising, media attention, and popular activities surrounding the holiday all involves children: children and their colorful costumes, children going door-to-door for trick-or-treating, kids and their Halloween craft projects, parades around town of children in costume, the list goes on and on. Not even Facebook is a safe escape, as our friends' Walls and profiles are overtaken by photos of cute little Suzie and Jamie and all of their little kiddie friends in costume. For individuals coping with infertility, these can all be a painful reminders of joyful parenthood events they may never get to experience themselves.
So how can one cope with Halloween when every smiling child in a witch or Harry Potter costume feels like a stab in the heart? I'm not creating this page to be a killjoy to the parents who have every right to enjoy Halloween with their children. Just to provide a few tips and helpful links for surviving the Halloween blues, for those who might be feeling the pain at this time of year. Let me share my personal experiences as well as helpful links to articles written by others on this topic.