A baby shower is meant to be a joyous celebration, a way of welcoming new life into the world. Yet if you are a woman coping with infertility, a baby shower can instead be a dreaded and depressing reminder of your own inability to have a child. As much as you may be happy for the mother-to-be, it can be hard to really share in the happy event because of your own painful emotions. And figuring out how to best deal with an invitation to a baby shower without offending or confusing friends and loved ones can be difficult, especially as others may not understand just how deeply your fertility struggles are affecting you.
I know it's difficult because I've been there myself, and sometimes let my own emotional turmoil over infertility overshadow my ability to share in the happiness others are experiencing. It's taken quite a few years to come to terms with the situation and how best to approach it to both protect my own state of mind as well as not offending others. Here are my thoughts and suggestions on how you may wish to handle the situation yourself.