Before my father died in 1986, he spent a few weeks in ICU (Intensive Care Unit.)
You would think that this period of time would give me time to come to terms with my loved ones subsequent death, but, sometimes it may not be the case.
Even though a death can sometimes be expected, it still doesn't help to lessen the pain or shock that you may feel when it eventually occurs.
How to cope when someone is terminally ill
There is no easy answer to this question. The circumstances surrounding your loved one's ill health, your relationship with each other at the time, other family members etc. will all dictate to you how you deal with the situation.
The best thing you can do is:
a) Do what you feel is best for you at the time. Don't be pressured into doing anything you don't want to do by others.
b) Take the time to say goodbye to your loved one. It will be hard but you will feel less guilt when eventually they pass away.
Process of Recovery
'Some get stuck somewhere in the process of recovery and need help. Others are so affected by their bereavement that the grief gets out of hand. In such cases, treatment as well as assistance is needed, counsel as well as care.'
Thank you for sharing your personal experience of grief.