Guide To Confidence

Until recent years, I have been very insecure. People do not recognize it, but boys can be insecure. I was insecure about my body, I had terrible acne, and just my overall look. These were the darkest times of my life and I was the worst version of myself I have ever been. Other boys got involved and I was an emotional wreck.

So I developed a method that would get my priorities set straight and I would be on my way to becoming happy again. I started to workout and I spoke to a dermatologist to try and get my acne fixed. About a year went by and I started to see little results, but I still was not happy in my own skin. Then, 10th grade came and it was one of the best years of my life. During this year, I met many new people that I am determined to keep in touch with for the rest of my life. I also picked up more involvement with the school marching band and then color guard. I surrounded myself with so much positivity, that I did not have room for much sadness in my life. I found myself talking to boys less which made my life so much easier.

Gaining confidence is definitely a time consuming process, but with this guide I hope you can all find within yourself, that you are beautiful and loved..

1. GET INVOLVED!

Definitely join a club or extracurricular at your school. This will be a great opportunity to make some friends and get your mind off of stressful things like drama, school work, etc. Sports are great too!

My sophomore year, I did everything I could to find a distraction to get my mind off of everything that was happening. That's where band came into play. When I started putting my time into band, instead of dating, drama, etc., I noticed a dramatic increase in my positivity because I surrounded myself with people that loved doing the same thing I did!

2. GET INFORMED!

If you try to gain confidence by trying to change how you look because you don’t think you are “Hot” enough, IT WILL NEVER WORK! Confidence is not something acquired by looks, the most attractive person alive good be insecure. It is all about self perception!

The sooner you realize that the only person that can give you confidence is you, the sooner you will have an amazing sense of confidence!

3. GET SOCIAL!

And finally, build a solid group of friends that support you and have close to the same interests to you. However, having friends that have different interests than you may be a good thing just because you could try something new with your friend that you may end up really liking!

If you follow these guidelines you should start seeing yourself as a different person. However, this person is not different, this is the person you have been hiding from due to insecurity. Just remember that confidence is all about self-perspective, which is how you see yourself. Everyone is beautiful in their own way, it just takes time realizing that.