Your Maid of Honor doesn’t have to be female and your Best Man doesn’t need to be male. There are now many people opting to do the opposite. It all depends on who the people close to you are. If you don’t have any sisters, but have a brother who you are very close to, he can be your “Man of Honor.” If you have a female best friend who is closer to you than your brothers or male friends, let her be your “Best Woman.”
You will get a few heads turning at first, but this is your big day. Make it special to you. Of course, you need to talk to each other as a couple to discuss this situation, especially if you end up with two men or two women up there.
If you're really stuck or have no specific person you want to choose, there is always the option of not having a Maid of Honor or Best Man at all. You could give all your bridesmaids specific jobs to do through the day, or get all your groomsmen involved in keeping you calm.
Are you still struggling to choose your Maid of Honor or Best Man? Remember that this day is all about you. Choose someone who will help to make your day special and ensure it is all about you. Find people who will be there to help every step of the way and make themselves available when you need a fitting or rehearsal. It’s all about making your day the best it could possibly be.
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It happens, though. My dad's best man (his schoolmate) passed a couple of years ago. My parents never got on with his wife, and there was a lot of complicated personal stuff there too. I think my mum's bridesmaids are still alive and still married but not without incident, as far as I know. We spent New Year with ours and tend to meet up every 6-8 weeks so some time next month should be the next weekend together.
Thanks, Paula. That's great that you're still friends. My mum and dad were best friends with theirs too. After my mum's Maid of Honor passed away, my dad and his Best Man lost contact. It's a shame, really.
Love this article! Our bridesmaid and best man were then and are still our best friends, who are also best friends themselves and pass for a couple to those who don't know otherwise. Our best man keeps my husband in line when they go away for overseas geekend coding parties and our bridesmaid is then dispatched to keep me company for the weekend. That's a win-win if ever I heard of one.