How to Get Rid of House Guest?

DerdriuMarriner, Unfortunately I have found myself in this situation, it can happen when your least expected to...

katiem2, I've been looking forward to reading this article, and it's worth the wait! I'm looking forward to the book even though I don't remember ever facing this situation.

yvettestupart, You said it very well thanks for adding to the conversation.

AnomalousArtist, Oh those lessons learned, right? No need to repeat mistakes.

Wish I'd read this a few years ago! ;)

Thanks Jason, So glad you found me here. do come back often.

Good one katiem2

Mike, you are so right it is all to common for any one of us to innocently think inviting a house guest into our home is a good idea and one that will be a temporary experience. In fact one day can feel like one hundred for many of us who don't fully understand the comfort of privacy in our own homes.

This is a common issue most anyone can innocently get themselves into.

True if you have a spouse and kids it becomes much more involved and complicated.

Yes this can be an issue especially if you have a family a house guest can step on so many toes.

Brian, That's the tricky part, while it's best to avoid welcoming unwanted house guest into your home we often invite wanted house guest that become unwanted. Anytime they over stay their welcome, remain idle doing little if anything to correct their circumstances and just flat out become a constant presence who does not pull their own weight. It's difficult and yet honesty from the beginning is best. Before you allow them to move in out line the expectations you have such as looking for a job, cleaning house to make up for lack of income, do not move boxes of their belongings into your home yet store them in a storage facility (this encourages them to get their own place) as a reminder they need to find a permanent solution.

BUT the question you asked was how to get rid of them once you've already allowed them to stay with you? Answer. this is not working out the way I had though and it's making me uneasy and concerned for you and everyone else involved. You need to focus on solutions here. Lets set down right now and map out a plan for you to get up and out making it on your own as I know this is your ultimate goal and is a very doable goal. Then actually pull out paper and pen brainstorm what it is they want and how they may achieve that. You might go as far as to take them to look for their own apartment and or job if they don't have one. Also advise them they can't just lay around here doing nothing, it's bad for their body and mind set so here's a list of things for you to do around here to keep you up and involved in the eb and flow of life. On a separate sheet of paper make that list while you set there together. Vacume, dust, wash dishes, cook dinner, mow the lawn, take out the trash, walk the dog, water the plants. You get the idea now if they are already pulling their weight in this regard pass on this yet keep working on the plan of action to get them out of your house. :) This will work you just must stay on it.

How do you get rid of someone once.they've already been staying at your house.

cherylone, You're not going to believe this but I got a request just after writing this article. OMG I thought it was a joke at first but learned it wasn't. I followed my own advice.

How true, how true. It is never a good idea to take in house guests; but most of us do at one time or another. Great advice!

Pinkchic, There is nothing wrong with saying NO to begin with siting your not good with house guest and are a very private person.

Great tips. I'm soft when it comes to this so I'm often a pushover.

MonisMas, Glad to hear that.

Great topic. I actually don't remember having to get rid of anybody annoying. I love your article thought!

I've learned my lesson as well.

I'm following this advice the next time this issue comes up, hopefully I don't get any request to live in my apartment but if I do I'm simply saying, "No I can't live with other people I almost wrecked friendships during my college years and have learned my lesson"

Georgette, What a great strategy to shortening the stay of house guest..

I have never successfully avoided but I have shortened the length of the stay: stopped cooking, went to work instead of taking days off, stopped keeping "up" on the housework, and retreated to my bedroom early...Basically I became a boring, temporary slob!

Mira, Good point and sometimes people you care about have difficult times needing a soft place to land and be numb for a while while they pull themselves together.

I agree it's a good idea to help the person find better options if you don't want to get stuck. And yes, it's difficult to have privacy when you have a house guest. But at the same time, if it's a person you really get along with, it can be a great time!

Brenda, Lucky for you. I've experienced it a few times and have learned it's a situation I don't allow myself to get in to now period. I constantly asked my Mom to come live with me (she's the one person I'd enjoy) but she refused over and over again. She like her independence.

I've never had this problem. Nice article.