Is Work Related Romance Appropriate?

by katiem2

Is it okay to date someone you work with? Learn the places to work that find it appropriate to date co-workers.

Work related romance or affairs are something many fear and others avoid at all cost. It seems a very bad combination pairing relationships and work, a potential threat to one’s job security. It’s not as common as some might think and yet office or work related romances do occur. There are places of employment that forbid such interactions and those that take no position on the subject period. Those with policies against interoffice or work related relationship are those with the least occurrence. Why, when clearly outlined the professionally minded do not want to jeopardize their livelihood or possible advancement.

Understanding Dating Policies

Human Resources Outlines Dating Policies

The company you work for has clear guidelines as to their policies on dating among employees. All employees should receive a company hand book outlining the many policies and procedures of their company. While many don't read these hand books in its entirety there is much to learn from reading it.

If you’re wondering if it’s okay to date someone you work with you should read the company hand book carefully. If you ask someone if it’s okay you may receive incorrect information. This could lead to the loss of your employment. Don’t risk it, read the hand book yourself to fully understand the guidelines to your specific work place as each company differs in police.

Do You Read Company Handbooks?

Do you really read the company handbook your provided from front to back making sure to understand the policies and procedures of your company?

Is Dating a Co-Worker Appropriate?

Anytime your job is less important than a tempting interaction with someone you're attracted to relationships may develop.

As the persons involved may deem the attraction between them more worth while than the job itself. 

If there is no policy against employee dating it is entirely up to the individual. The majority of both men and women feel it’s a bad idea adding it to their list of things they would never do. The risk takers in society are those most likely to partake in such an affair. This is a strong indicator of one’s adventurous and possible risk taker side.

New and budding relationships should approach the question asking one another where they stand on this topic. Anyone who feels it’s okay may not be the right person for you to date or become intimately involved with. The quick answer to the question is work related romance appropriate is up to the individual yet speaks volumes of a person relationship type.

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If You Date a Co-Worker

Think carefully before dating a coworker.

While intimate relationships at work may or may not be a topic you feel necessary to discuss it can be very helpful to do so. Anytime we become involved with a person it’s always a good idea to really get to know them before the relationship develops. Learning a person’s moral position on such things helps you to know if you are a good match. Two people who have widely different values are not a good match. These types of pairings end up with someone getting hurt. It is always best to learn this early on; move on if need be and avoid undue pain and conflict. Learning a person’s relationship type is best done early on.


Is It Okay to Date Co-Workers

Work may not be the best place to date or personally interact with co-workers.

For many of us it seems like a big mistake with no room for romance in the work place and yet others feel it's perfectly fine. There will always be the exception to the norm or the rule with some among us feeling it perfectly acceptable to date a coworker and therefore do so. They may in fact see it as advantageous to work with their significant other.

The reality of dating in the work place makes many employees uncomfortable. They may feel favoritism may occur or friction may negatively affect the work dynamics in the incident of tension or a breakup in the relationship. Let’s debate this issue below by participating in the duel of pros and cons of dating in the work place. 

Is it Okay to Date a Co-Worker?

This debate will help others consider the pros and cons of dating in the work place.
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No, I think it's a bad idea to mix personal and professional dating a co-worker because;
PeggyHazelwood on 05/25/2013

If possible, I think it's best to separate the two. Work is hard enough (as are relationships) without intermingling them.

Yes, I think it's fine to date someone you work with because;
DerdriuMarriner on 08/22/2018

Friendships form and fracture wherever there are interaction possibilities. One thing leads to another. But romance, like friendship, on the job works out best when everyone behaves like grown-ups and keeps in mind the broader picture.

ologsinquito on 04/11/2013

I'm not sure a company can really mandate and enforce a ban on workplace dating if two people are attracted to one another. I met my now husband at work. But if I were young and had to do it all over again, and really cared about my job, I might be a bit more hesitant to get involved with a co-worker.

In my early 20s, I didn't have a clear idea of all the ramifications of this type of dating. Plus we worked in an environment where it was very accepted.

Updated: 04/11/2013, katiem2
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katiem2 on 03/09/2017

DerdriuMarriner, I get this question all the time, I am amazed as to how often it is considered as myself have never contemplated work related romance

DerdriuMarriner on 03/07/2017

katiem2, Ever relevant and very interesting! I can understand why dating co-workers is so controversial. And yet, in a kinda sorta similar way (but not), what's the difference between that and people who form and fall out of friendships with co-workers?

katiem2 on 05/25/2013

PeggyHazelwood, I agree, although many say it works for them I can't see it working for me, ever...

PeggyHazelwood on 05/25/2013

Keeping your dating life separate is a good idea. Work and relationships are hard enough! Ugh.

katiem2 on 05/16/2013

AnomalousArtist, I'm with you it all seems to complicated and flat out a lot of time together, possibly excess....

AnomalousArtist on 05/16/2013

Great topic/article--I've know people who nearly married someone at the office, broke up then married someone ELSE in the office...I don't know how they managed it (or WHY, ha ha).

katiem2 on 04/19/2013

Brenda. Thanks for sharing your real life stories of relationships unfolding in the work place.

BrendaReeves on 04/18/2013

Very interesting. I know of two people who got fired for dating each other. I also know of two more people who dated and kept it under wraps. They're married now and have a baby. I think it's generally a bad idea. If you can get fired for it, it's definitely a bad idea.

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