The Loveless Marriage

In time we begin to resent the person we live with. Although few ever admit to living in a loveless marriage it's always apparent to everyone when love is absent.

It's true some couples tend to drift apart after being married for many years and some do not.

In fact many grow closer, it is therefore wrong to assume everyone passes you off as a seasoned couple who's simply comfortable with one another.

The lack of love for another is always obvious, everyone knows real love when they see it, just the same they also know when there's no love.

Life is short, it's perishable and is therefore a shame to throw away on a relationship void of love or admiration.

Love and admiration do go hand in hand. While there are many reasons people remain in a loveless marriage it's most commonly seen as being lazy.

Here's a list of common reasons other people think you stay in a loveless marriage, just so you know.

1. The most common reason is a surprising one, its the belief you're to proud to admit you've made a mistake, you'd rather pose as someone having a normal marriage than someone who's in an unhappy one so you pretend, lie!
2. Lazy, you would rather have someone else take care of you than to get out and make a go of it for yourself.
3. No self worth, why else would one trade happiness for a comfortable life? You don't feel worthy.
4. Resentment, many feel you stay to stick it to your spouse, really make them pay for your unhappiness.
5. Money, your spouse makes more money or has all the money and your to lazy to earn your own.
6. The house and possessions, many feel you're to greedy to let go of material things or split them.
7. You married a trophy wife, please, really, as if, everyone thinks that is so pathetic.
8. You're a gold digger, you married the guy (looking for the trophy wife) for his money.
9. You got married only because you had to and never made it right, you settled.
10. The kids, this is really a bad reason as it's been proven over and over to hurt the kids, unless it's an abusive situation and you stay to protect the kids from being used to hurt you causing them undue pain from an abusive parent. You sacrifce your happiness for their safety.
11. You came from a broken or dysfunctional home and therefore don't know what it's like to be in a healthy relationship, you therefore don't know better.

Bottom line is this, everyone knows you're in a loveless marriage, in fact you're own spouse may not deny it behind your back, all the while everyone speculates as why you're selling yourself out to stay in a loveless marriage.  

The truth is the only person who's buying into your rational is well you but then again you too know it's a fraud.  Living a loveless marriage really is a fraud.  So at least you should realize you're really not kidding anybody.  

But you may want to ask yourself, what quality of relationships do you imagine your having in a circle of people who see you as a person who lives a lie married to someone you do not love?  Do you think others see you as honorable?  

In the grand scheme of things you sacrifice far more than you may have considered by remaining in an unhappy marriage.  

The truth is a loveless relationship hurts, it's a very sad way to live your life. Do you feel happy once you're apart from your spouse? Imagine how happy you could be once you live apart from them permanently?

There is never a good reason to live with someone you don't love. Your worthy of love, your spouse is worthy of love and everyone in your family deserves to come to know the person you truly are once you're happy. You will never be happy living in a loveless marriage.

Don't you think you know by now if you've fallen out of love for keeps? Maybe you've never loved them and now's the time to find out how great life is. You will never understand true love and how great it feels to truly love someone until you get out, be free and be yourself again.