How to Find Out What Your Kid is Doing

Education is not the only vital development going on in our schools. Our children are being influenced, exposed and molded into adults in these troubled times. Do you really know your child. Maybe it's time you opened up and listened to the school snitch.

You've no doubt heard about the trend in teen suicide due to embarrassing facts or lies said about them or aired for their entire peer group to witness. Read on as we explore how to utilize the school snitch, get the facts on bully's, drugs and the intimate details going on in our kids schools.

Do you have a good line of communication with your child. Your child's school is the best source for insider information. Do you have a good source within your kids school to provide you with the straight and honest facts.

Have your heard of the hallway block. This is a ritual where the upper class men stand blocking the hallways not allowing anyone to pass, this causes the lower class men to be late for class, not to mention the humiliation. This is going on in the best high schools across the country. Issues such as this do not discriminate.

There is the cluster or mob, this is when a large group of boys crowd around a girl when passing in the halls forming a mob around her, suddenly she's standing in the middle of a mob of boys who may do and say things before she's allowed to leave that she would never want to admit to someone else.

Lot's of things go on each and everyday in your child's school that could make for a life altering moment. Do you feel you should be apart of this process? You can find your way into the information pool and make a difference. Yes you can and should, you just have to know how to work it. The school gossip or snitch may be your best friend.

Many parents are in a state of denial or out of touch with the real life challenges and victories their child deals with.  It may be that the stress and demands of life has you moving at such a intense pace you don't actually hear what your kids are saying.  They may be mumbling now as they realize you don't really listen, its their last ditch effort and yet safety valve protecting them from rejection.

Your child really needs for you to take the time to understand their lives and what they face day in and out. Kids know when your checked out and clueless about their life.

Bottom line, this is the moment in time when you could lose your child. To who, to anyone else willing to get them and give them what they desperately need, someone, anyone that keeps them from being alone in this stage of life.

If your child seems to be changing dig deep to find out what's going on. Don't buy into that old, "it's a phase" that's a cop out.

Do you get your child or is it someone else who will fill that need. Kids need support and companionship as much if not more so than adults.

Who's on their side, who is it they turn to during tense and stressful moments. Do you really feel they should or will just go it alone.

Yelling and constantly nagging at your child puts you out of the loop, after all how many people do you trust with your secrets that yell at you constantly pointing out what you DON'T do.

How to get the facts and inside scoop as to what really goes on in your child's life is simple. First respect the wealth of information available to you.

Other parents hear things and yet don't say anything to you if your out of the loop or unapproachable.

You've got to put yourself out there, letting other parents know you want to be apart of the village who has each others back and keeps them up to speed on everything heard or going on in the school.

Pooling information from multiple families gives everyone a bigger picture to filter thoughts and come to a healthy reaction within your family.

If your won't tell them your silly little rumor sources they feel confident that you will keep your own child's secrets safe as well.

In time after a continued back and forth you will develop a give and take relationship with your child which will be rewarding and comforting to the both of you.

Winning the Trust of Your Teen is Crucial

Included with this article is a comments sections i like to call The Village. This is a section where kids and adults alike can leave feed back, facts and details about what really goes on in their lives and at school.

This village is a safe and secure place for anyone to share the truth about real life issues kids and young adults face at school and in life in general. This will help us all to better understand and support the real issues.

Share this web page with other parents allowing them to share so we can broaden our scope and gather more helpful facts and truths.

A good place to share is face book and twitter. You'll notice a series of buttons at the end of this, just before the comments section.  Share this there and frequently check back here from time to time as we grow in our knowledge and understanding.

So go ahead be your own top secret spy and school snitch helping us to understand the facts get real and face the cold hard truths. Our village will make the lives of our youth better as we look head on with open eyes into the truth.

Much Love and Success, Katie