DOES JEALOUSY ROB YOU OF GOD’S GRACE?

by SidewalkPhilosopher

God says as long as there is jealousy in a person’s heart, there cannot be Christ-like existence. Jealousy is of the world, rendering you worldly.

Be aware of your own jealousy. These emotions can lead to participating in negative and malicious gossip, the delivery of negative, non-constructive criticism and rude and disrespectful behavior towards others. Ask yourself, “What about this situation am I really jealous of? Does jealousy really stem from the truth or just something I have told myself exists?”

1 Corinthians 3:3

During my lifetime, I have had no real issues with jealousy. Therefore, I don’t profess to understand anyone who has these feelings.

Though I cannot empathize with someone consumed by jealousy, I can see the damage and loss it can bring to their lives.

God says as long as there is jealousy in a person’s heart, there cannot be Christ-like existence. Jealousy is of the world, rendering you worldly.

1 Corinthians 3:3 “For ye are yet carnal: for whereas there is among you envying, and strife, and divisions, are ye not carnal, and walk as men?”

In reading about jealousy, I have found it mostly stems from your own insecurities.

Be aware of your own jealousy. These emotions can lead to participating in negative and malicious gossip, the delivery of negative, non-constructive criticism and rude and disrespectful behavior towards others.

You just may hurt someone badly because you are blinded by your jealousy.

These feelings can alienate you from loved ones or cause you to only see the negative in another person, many times unfairly. You may never know the love you could receive from them because you have shielded yourself from them with your jealousy.

Ask yourself, “What about this situation am I really jealous of? Does jealousy really stem from the truth or just something I have told myself exists?”

It is time for some self-analysis. “What about this situation do you fear you might lose? What hurtful belief about yourself has led to your feeling this thought is an absolute truth? What meaning are you giving to these feelings?” For example, you may be fearful of losing someone’s love to someone else.

Do you feel it is impossible for someone to love both you and the other without your losing anything? Examine the thing that makes you think you are not receiving that love. Have you asked them if they still love you the same or have you just decided your thought process is correct and their words have no merit?

Self-esteem is closely tied with the emotions of jealousy. This is because the emotions guide us to expose our deepest fears about being unloved. These shadow emotions seek to find the cracks in your armor and work their way in, creating self-doubt. Rather than realizing this self-doubt, you resent the person your are jealous of instead.

Gratitude is one of the most powerful tools to help us shift quickly into a more positive, emotional state. Stop focusing on the negative, jealous feelings. Learn to focus on the blessings you have in your life, the love you receive from others and the love you give in return. Study the person to whom you feel jealousy and you will probably find your blessings far exceed theirs. Get to know them and find the good in them. In the process, you will find the good in yourself because that understanding will give you peace.

Now, focus on those who love you. Did you feel less loved by them because of this jealousy? Is your love for them unconditional or have you placed conditions on their love that blocks the sharing of it? Have they loved you unconditionally in the past? Do they still?

Begin to find ways in which you might show love toward the person with whom you feel jealous. Everyone needs love and understanding just as much as you do. By focusing on their needs, you will focus less on your own.

In return, you may just find that you will receive an extra abundance of love from them.

Don’t allow jealousy to rob you of something important in your life. Talk it out with everyone involved. Work together to find the path to freedom from this nagging, unfounded jealousy.

In doing so, you will usually find there was no cause for it in the first place and you will be happier for the lesson learned.

God never intended us to be jealous of each other. He gives each of us the ability to love unconditionally with a love that never runs dry. He, in turn, loves us in the same way, blessing each of us as special to Him.

Updated: 05/19/2022, SidewalkPhilosopher
 
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SidewalkPhilosopher 17 days ago

frankbeswick…I agree…it is a constant battle for some. I have felt it at times but just will not allow it to invade my life. There is always a way around if you search for it.

SidewalkPhilosopher 17 days ago

WriterArtist…You are absolutely right on all points!

frankbeswick 17 days ago

Writer/Artist, evil thoughts and desires are, as you imply, natural, so they don't go away easily. All religions agree that spiritual practices, i.e. prayer and meditation, are the remedy. But the process is not easy and it takes much time.

This reminds me of one Christian hermit [Saint Macarius I think] who decided that as he had finally conquered the desires of the flesh, and so would spend eight days in constant prayer and fasting. After a day and a half he sensed that his hut [in the Egyptian desert] was ablaze and rushed out to escape, only to realize that it was an hallucination. He then realized that you cannot get rid of human nature, but have to live a whole life of self-control.

We all have a dominant vice that troubles us more than other vices. We have to be aware of it and respond accordingly.

WriterArtist 17 days ago

Good points - SidewalkPhilosopher.
It is human to be jealous and sometimes we can't help it. Being envious of siblings, colleagues and neighbours is a common trait. If we are conscious and do not let it overpower us, we are in control. Meditation sure helps, we have to constantly try. Like all vices, we have to be wary of burning in jealousy.

SidewalkPhilosopher 25 days ago

You are welcome, Derdriu…

DerdriuMarriner 25 days ago

Thank you, Frank, SidewalkPhilosopher and Veronica, for reminding us all of the divine commandment against being covetous, envious and jealous.

Is it not possible that perhaps it occurs last so that we are to remember it as perhaps cause, indicator and perpetrator of the other nine mis-behaviors, mis-feelings and mis-thoughts? May it not be like what Oliver Wendell Holmes (Aug. 29, 1809-Oct. 7, 1894) said about lying as the handle that ties together all sins?

SidewalkPhilosopher 28 days ago

Veronica 😊

Veronica 28 days ago

Good morning Sidewalk,

Frank has asked me to answer his messages on Wizzley until I fly over to join them on Thursday.

Thank you for commenting . He will be back in a few days.

SidewalkPhilosopher 29 days ago

Frank, you are so right!

frankbeswick 29 days ago

Jealousy breaks the commandment against covetousness.


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