It's so easy to be compassionate with other people, but what about yourself? You deserve that same respect and empathy, even from yourself.
Beating yourself up for not having the answers immediately is utterly self-defeating. Every project requires the time to grow from concept to actuality, and rebuilding your life is no different.
Right now, you could be struggling even to work out what the question is, let alone come up with a genius solution. So let us take this all the way back to basics.
When you were born, your parents knew that you were alright. They did that by the very simple checklist of checking that you have all of your fingers and toes. Do you still have them? Well good! Then you must be fundamentally alright.
(And if you don't, well it was never a test with any sound medical basis nor logic behind it anyway.)
Back then, you couldn't hold your own head up without support. You couldn't speak, walk, crawl or take yourself to the toilet. You couldn't feed yourself. Your eyes barely focused on anything. Your brain interpreted the world as a collection of shapes, colors and sounds. And you were loved, deeply and unconditionally, for it.
Now look at you. Look at all that you achieved. All of the boxes that you ticked and moved beyond. Can you hold up your head without a hand behind it? Can you express deep and complex emotions in your mother tongue? Can you walk into the kitchen and fix yourself a glass of water?
Then you're already one step further than you were when you started. You gave it time then and you can give it time now. It's all only a matter of scale. You may have to begin with a crawl, then stumble when you start to walk. But you did back then too. It was viewed as part of your life's learning; and so is this.
That love, deep and unconditional, may be in the people around you; but it should be in you too. Be gentle with yourself. Give yourself time. Talk it over. Focus on the job in front of you. Then the rest of your life will gradually fall back into line.
No-one is asking you to get over your loss. Some things can never be forgotten, nor should they be. But be patient with your sadness and yourself, and in that compassion will come coping. Time will make it easier to bear.