How to Find True Love - The Six Types of Love

Finding your perfect match is simple, just be honest about what you want, who your are and it's then you will find your perfect match.

The different types of relationships are;

1. Long-term committed

2. Short-term romance

3. Healthy friendship

1) Eros Love is a romantic love primarily involving physical attraction embodied in the rush of new love and the intensity it creates.  Eros love types are attracted to the physical appearance and attributes of others combined with an unrealistic expectation for anything long term.

The physical appearance of others is the Eros lovers primary desire for another basing the check list of their perfect match on the best looking person they can find.

The Eros relationship is best known for one of lust and intensity with a burning passion hard to maintain and therefore fizzles out quickly. An Eros lover craves the rush of the first burst of romantic chemistry with little to no focus on the emotional needs and aspects of love.  

The Eros love type is basically addicted to the rush of an amazingly handsome or beautiful catch. This love type consist of those who are typically known as players, cheaters, and those who divorce many times if they ever marry at all. Many Eros love types are narcissist, vain and self absorb with their own good looks and reputation.  

2) Pragma Love is rational and practical. The pragma type seeks a lover based on requirements that meet their needs or more to the point their weaknesses. Pragma lovers choose partners through a checklist of qualities in the areas of; education, income, social status, parenting gene potential, and the possessions they’ve acquired.

The pragma does not focus on the emotional aspects of love in their relationships they think and plan as to who will work the best to fulfill their long term goals.  There is little evidence of intense passion in this type of relationship.

Common sense tells us this type of lover is less concerned with what they can do for themselves rather than what a partner can do for them. The pragma lover typically lacks ambition and self confidence otherwise why would they not expect these important aspect from themselves. 

How to spot a pragmatic lover - they will have a check list of questions for you from the beginning. The pragmatic lover is best suited with a person who puts the needs of others before their own.  

Warning they tend to be takers not givers.

3) Storage Love is one of friendship. This type of love is confusing beginning with a strong friendship that develops into feelings of love and romantic notions with a heavy dose of doubt.

Anytime we begin to wonder about the possibilities of a friend becoming our lover we doubt the doubt the idea writing it off as our own silly fantasy that will never take root. The fine line between a strong loving bond with a friend can easily cross the line.  The area of sex is less important to the storage lover with a higher regard for common interest, caring, compassion and a tight bond they feel will stand the test of time. A storage approach to love is less about romance, if at all, and more about the bond of a time tested friendship.  Sexual needs are basic with little expectation of a intense sensual realtionship with a storage love type.

5) Ludus Love is one filled with a ever flowing source of fun and games with ludus love type. Ludus lovers crave excitement and the rush of adrenaline. A ludus love is more about the high attained when first forming a relationship. The ludus lover easily grows bored when it comes to the building and nurturing of a long term relationship. They love the thrill of the chase and that of a new conquest, not long term relationship material.  To remain in a relationship with a ludus love type you would be required to do daring things.  You can imagine the risky behavior needed to maintain the rush a ludus love craves.

6) Mania Love is one of the fatal attraction scenario. This type of lover offers one wild and crazy ride.  The mania lover comes out of the gate appearing as an intensely romantic.  This phase is often used to insure the manic lover gets their mate.   A change often soon follows leaving you with a, who is this person type of wonderment.  A manic lover is possessive, jealous, controlling and dependent all at once. These characteristics point to an addictive relationship not a healthy romantic love.  The mania love type most often seems over whelmed with turmoil, exhibiting extreme over reactions, obsession, and control issues all of which can lead to stalking, threats and or even worse.

What a wake up call to realize the differences in ones ability to love. Now that you've read and learned about the different types of love you will easily identify others ability to love and to what degree. This eliminates so much pain and suffering.

We often dig our heals in, convincing ourselves we love someone we actually may not. It's more about rejection, feeling as if someone is rejecting your love and adoration drives us to succeed denying failure and working the mismatched relationship into the ground.

The truth of the matter is not that you have failed at love, in reality you have been barking up the wrong tree. This person is not rejecting you, they are doing only what their sociological make-up allows them, all the while not understanding or clicking with yours.

We are all different, not everyone can love just anyone! There is a lot of love in the world and this writer believes it can strike often. Do like the most successful people of the world, give it a go, admit when it's not working and move on the the next adventure. You'll know it without a doubt when it's the one and be so glad you held out for true love.

The best relationships grow from honest feelings of love and attraction. Attraction is simply one person enjoying the character, personality and individual qualities both physical and mental of another fitting into their personal desires.

As you read on you realize many issues holding you back are in large due to you questioning your own lovable factor. Most of us experience a lot of self doubt in the area of love.  Once you realize what love type you are the confidence you gain is huge and frees you of self doubt.

Love is a basic and simple emotion all healthy people experience, need and crave, knowing the types of love is a good place to start when it come to understanding your possible connection to another.

What you really need to know is if the object of your affection is capable of giving you what you desire.

To do this you must understand the type of love you naturally seek and need determining if the person in question is a compatible match for you.