Another great tip for a successful wedding proposal is to not get angry, when it's not all going quite according to plan. Ryan Houston's bad example is a case in point.
He'd done everything right. He'd booked a quiet holiday for himself and his girlfriend Laura Yearout, in a sun-drenched resort in Cozumel. He'd even arranged a romantic meal for two, out on a pier with the ocean lapping all around. It should have been beautiful.
But someone had moored their yacht right behind the couple.
On the verge of asking Laura to marry him, Ryan glanced over her shoulder and saw a man in Speedos stand up and stretch. Just feet away, the man looked across at the couple. Feeling the moment somewhat ruined, Ryan leapt from his seat and untied the yacht, pushing it out to sea.
There's no record of what the man in the Speedos did. But presumably he called the police, because before Ryan had geared himself up to finally make his proposal, he was staring into the eyes of a Mexican constable.
As he was handcuffed and being dragged away, Ryan yelled at Laura to get 'something' out of his pocket. She did. It was the ring. She freaked the Hell out and dropped the ring, right into the ocean.
It transpired that the yacht wasn't actually damaged. After a while cooling his heels inside, Ryan was let go to continue the rest of his holiday.
Which is when Laura told him what she'd done. He spent the next two hours in full Scuba gear, combing the sea floor until he discovered the errant engagement ring. The words 'lucky man' spring to mind. I would have guessed it drifted well out on the currents by then!
He returned to his girlfriend on the beach and finally asked her if she'd be his wife. She said 'yes'. Personally? I'd have entered in a clause there. A tentative yes, depending upon whether or not he subscribes to some anger management classes.
And if your great planned proposal doesn't go quite as scripted? Then let it happen. This next bloke redeemed his moment brilliantly. You'll not be able to watch this without laughing.
Ah! And that is a brilliant proposal! Beautifully done, and you got the ring that you wanted. Not to mention that it was a success in terms of you saying yes.
No to both guesses. At least as far as I know *wink*. You'll meet him in a couple of months, so long as you're still coming to Revival, so you can draw your own conclusions. But I do think that familial approval (aka arranged marriage) doesn't only happen in certain cultures and that some families can become a little too...controlling?... of their younger members, which cramps their style and stops them from reaching full potential. Fortunately, my husband has always had his own mind, regardless of the fact that his family treat him otherwise and resent me for becoming involved with him. His 'proposal' involved stopping pointedly in front of a store in the Jewelry Quarter of Manhattan and saying 'we should go in and look at engagement rings'. To this day I don't know whether either set of parents expected this turn of events, but mine have reacted far better than his family.
Mmm... did you marry a member of the aristocracy or something? Or someone from a rival clan is a Medieval feud?
According to us, yes. According to others, not necessarily. And, as some of your videos show, sometimes even the other partner can have other ideas, with or without input from their family.
Ah! One of those tricky situations. :( Surely it was up to your husband who he wanted to marry?
No, but I suspect it's the same jealous streak that caused some of my in-laws to become outlaws after realising that a) I was here, b) I was staying and c) I was taking their relation to be my lawful wedded husband because we wanted to get married, not for any other reason.
Wow! Did the former boyfriend ever say what precisely prompted that?
I think couples know when they're meant to be together. There should be no question about it, at the moment of proposal.
I had a former boyf turn around and tell me he didn't like the way my parents were treating him as 'potential marriage material'. As my parents had been nothing but polite throughout, he didn't last long after that. Conversely my husband gets on very well with my parents, my dad in particular, which makes life much easier. Like them, we fell into marriage, having spent several years together without any major bust ups or fallings out with each other.
Thank you very much! :)
So much psychology packed in these videos ;-) Great page, Jo!!