5 Questions to Consider Before Getting Married

Marriage can truly be such a wonderful and beautiful thing.

Two people, who are very much in love, decide to spend the rest of their lives together no matter what happens and regardless of any obstacles and problems that may stand in their way.

Many, if not all, of us, are searching for the right person with whom we can spend the rest of our lives with.

For the romantics, they would want to search for their soul mate or the one that they are destined and fated to be with.

You shouldn't marry someone that you have only known for a few months or even less than a year because it’s not enough time to get to know someone, at least not well enough to marry.

Humans are naturally complex with a great variety of likes, dislikes, hobbies and interests.

They have their own personality traits and characteristics, which make them different from everyone else.

You may think that you already know a person well but, if you've only been around him or her for a short period of time, chances are, that there are still many things that you have yet to discover about your lover.

You shouldn't marry someone you don't really know all that well.

Marriage means living with your spouse so you should know a lot of things about said spouse, which include their quirks, their favorite things, their hobbies and their likes and dislikes.  

What makes your would-be spouse sad? What makes him or her tick? What makes him or her happy? What is his or her's favorite food?

You should know all these things and more. Your would-be spouse should know the answers to these things too with regards to you.

Knowing all about each other is also a mark of how close you two really are and how your romantic relationship is working out.

You should know even the simplest and littlest things about each other because this really shows how serious you both are about your relationship.

For example, it's your lover's birthday and you intend to give him or her a gift.

It can't just be any gift though because this is your special someone and you want it to be the best and most appropriate gift that you can find.

Think twice about marrying someone that you're always fighting with.

It is normal for couples to fight as it is part and parcel of a romantic relationship.

Sometimes, both of you could be engaged in such full-blown arguments and disagreements but at other times it’s just the teasing banter between the two of you.

A few fights here and there and every now and then should be perfectly normal since no two people are exactly alike.

It's inevitable that there might be some things that you and your lover would end up fighting about.

However, you need to think about how often you fight with your lover.

If you're always fighting, that can’t be normal.

There should be many more times that you're in full agreement with each other than fighting against each other.

Think about why you're fighting with your boyfriend or girlfriend.

What are the reasons for these fights? Would you consider them petty reasons?

Accept that no one is perfect.

You and everyone else have bad traits and habits and other imperfections.

There will surely be some things that you won't exactly like or love about your would-be spouse.

Sometimes, these things might get your both into arguments and fights.

Sometimes you might feel frustrated and angry because your lover isn't and couldn't be as perfect as you want him or her to be.

You have to remember that this isn't something that you can change.

No matter who you meet, that person will have his or her faults and inadequacies.

From time to time, you and that person will surely clash because of this.

The trick is finding someone whose imperfections you can live with and vice versa.

You have to be able to accept each other’s imperfections and still love each other in spite of this.

If you've really found the one you want to be with for the rest of your life, you wouldn't begrudge this person his or her weaknesses and he or she will still support you and be there for you though your own shortcomings may infuriate your lover at times.

These are just some of the questions you ought to consider before getting married.

Asking these questions should allow you to evaluate your relationship.

You can thus determine if you're really with the right person you want to be with or if you think there’s someone else out there for you.

You should be able to tell if you're really in love with your boyfriend or girlfriend and if you're ready to spend the rest of your life with him or her.  

What’s important is not to rush things.

Take your time to really think things through. Remember to be logical and rational about this.

This can only be good for you in the long run.

In the end, you're just saving yourself from a possible failed marriage, which could lead to either a divorce or annulment.

Such things would just leave you hurt and heartbroken.

Everyone wants to be happy and to find happiness but these things do take time.