Should I Have Children or Not - The Kids Vs. No Kids Debate

To recap, there are those who plan, let nature take its course and those completely taken back as they did not intend to become parents. This factor may reveal its self as result of this pole. Let's see about that.

There are parents who state they never planned to have kids and yet surprise they did, committing fully to their new found parenting role.

How do these cases play out?

Do these parents go on to be glad they had kids?

Let's face it there are countless children in bad situations with parents who could care less about them. It's highly unlikely any such people will end up here. But if you do please feel free to contribute. It's impossible for everyone to want kids or even be good parents.

Those of us who become parents find it to be a journey of exploration and learning. Most of us find we want to be better parents than our own parents were. We take it as a sort of challenge working very hard to excel at it becoming great parents.  

Most parents confess they learn more along the way than they knew from the start. Parenting is a growing experience for both parents and children. 

Do you feel many parents strongly urge those without kids to have kids when they should keep their opinions to themselves? 

Is it okay to pressure others to have kids for any reason at all?

Do parents and grandparents have the right to pressure their children or grandchildren to have kids?

Once you stop and think about all the undo pressure put on those without kids it seems wrong. After all parenting is some serious business.

Furthermore imagine couples who become parents together when one or the other expressed repeatedly they did not want kids. This raises the issue of forced parenting.  Is it a problem for one to be unwittingly made a parent or is it even possible? 

The reason not to have kids seems more abundant than the reasons to have kids. Those of us without kids are often asked why you don’t have kids. When are you having kids?  

Below we explore some of the reasons you should not become a parent regardless of what other parents say. First and foremost you should never be made to feel you should have children when you honestly never wanted to become a parent. There is nothing wrong with opting out of parenthood.

1. If you doubt having kids is right for you follow your gut.

While some doubt is normal, a strong doubt should be heeded don't let others persuade you.

Note: "Those convinced against their will are of the same opinion still" unknown

2. If you love work more than anything and want to continually excel at your career.

Parenting interferes with work even if you are a working parent. While you can do both there is no need to feel you should unless you're certain.

3. You love spending money on yourself, traveling, partying enjoying your freedom.

A lot of money and time goes into raising and caring for children usually limiting your options. It takes two parents to raise a child, while often not the case, it would be optimal for both parents to be involved in their child's life.

4. You are a loner and not very fond of people in general.

Parenting means you will be involved with a lot of people you otherwise would not throughout the child's education and rearing. If you're anti-social parenting is probably not going to change this about you.

5. If you plan to become a parent even against the will and desire of your partner. 

It takes two people to become a parent and yet it should never be entered into with someone clearly stating they do not want kids. It's wrong for a person to make another a parent by trickery or dishonesty. This creates a hostile environment for the child.