Successful Self Improvement Tips

There is always going to be someone who doesn’t agree with you or maybe not even like you. However, you can’t let that stop you from pursuing your dreams or goals. What’s good for someone else may not be good for you. It might not be the path you are meant to go down. There are many paths to success. Just because I choose a different road to go down doesn’t mean that I won’t get there. Who cares what people are thinking or what you may think they are thinking? Many times people have preconceived notions anyway.They have opinions about people they don’t even know or haven’t even taken the time to know. So, if someone doesn’t know me or anything about me, Why would I care what they think? This has prevented many people from doing what they love to do or even trying something different. The majority of people aren’t doing things, because they really want to anyway. They are doing things because everyone else is doing it. So, the question you can ask yourself is,” If everyone decided to jump off the bridge would you do it too?” If you are in your right mind, of course, the answer is, “No”.

Many times we are so wrapped up in what others may think that we can’t even hear ourselves thinking. What we think is important too. Stop asking people what they think. Sometimes we ask people what they think. Then, when they do give their opinions we don’t want to hear them. Well, it’s hard for someone not to give their opinion if you have been asking what they think for the past 10 years. Stop asking them and start thinking yourself.

It’s not about them it’s about you. It’s not what someone thinks you should be doing. It’s what you want to do. There are many things that you could be doing. If you feel confident in something than go ahead and do it. If you ask someone they may tell you that you shouldn’t be doing that. What do they know anyway?

People make assumptions all the time and 99% of them are just assumptions that’s all they are. No one has confirmed anything. Think for a change, “What do I think about it?” Not what so and so thinks. Who cares? This is your life. Sometimes we ask questions we already know the answers to. You have already made up your mind anyway. Why do we need someone else’s approval?

The path of self- improvement is about improving ourselves. If we are worried all the time what someone may think, it’s hard to feel good. If we feel like crap the majority of the time, we cannot improve ourselves. We must feel good. Stop worrying and for once in a lifetime stop caring what other people think. It’s really a great feeling. Start being you.

Along the path of self-improvement is being able to take constructive criticism. No one is always right. The sooner you understand that the better off you will be. Constructive criticism is not judging you. It is simply telling you something about yourself that you need to work on. Human beings are a work in progress. None of us are perfect, nor will we ever be, but that doesn’t mean that we can’t be the best that we can possibly be. When someone gives us a compliment we are all smiles. Yet, if someone tells us something that we need to hear (and we know it whether we admit it or not) we take it as an insult and get offensive. As a friend of mine always tells her kids you have to take your no’s like you take your yes’s. It’s the only way we can improve ourselves. If we don’t correct what we are doing wrong, than it will only get worse. Like the saying, “If you keep on doing what you been doing you keep on getting what you been getting” that usually refers to something that you are doing wrong.

In reality no one really enjoys being criticized. No one wants to hear what they are doing wrong. Why? Because it can be very hard to look in the mirror sometimes, we would rather look at someone else than ourselves. All criticism is not bad. If you saw someone that wasn’t doing something right, wouldn’t you want to tell them? Maybe they didn’t know and maybe they would like to know.

If you’re the type of person that gets offended or argumentative every time someone tries to tell you something than people won’t tell you anything. What kind of person will you become? I’ll tell you right now. The kind of person no one will want to be around. If for some reason that one day you want to correct someone you see doing something wrong, just be ready for them not to care two cents what you have to say. Because people are very good observers. They will see how you act when someone try’s to advise you.

In this world people will judge us. It’s the only way that you can know if a person is good or bad. People usually do judge you on your actions. Human beings do not have the power to know what is in someone’s heart only Allah does. So, we should make sure that our actions are good. Regardless, of what people say we know that we have all judged someone at one time or the other. It really doesn’t make sense to tell someone that they are judging you if they are trying to offer you some good advice. Your actions reflect what is in the heart. The inner reflects the outer. So, if your actions are bad usually what’s in your heart is too, and vice versa.

Haven’t you noticed that children they just say what’s on their minds? As adults we get away from that truthfulness, because we tell ourselves that we don’t want to hurt someone’s feelings. I’m not saying that we should just go around saying to people whatever we think especially if we feel it is hurtful. However, I do feel that we should say more of what we feel. You just feel so much better. A lot of times people aren’t even offended, but we hadn’t told them how we feel, because we assume that they will be offended. It also cuts down on the backbiting and slandering. Because if you can’t say it to a person’s face then you shouldn’t really be saying it at all.

Also people can’t make assumptions. That would cut down on a lot of the preconceived notions too. If someone has a genuine question. You can just answer it (people can tell when you are sincere and really do not know). It is better to ask a question and get the answer than make assumptions about something that isn’t true.

In my experience I learned that when people think you are not going to respond they say a lot of things to you and many times they are not nice. This has been my observation you may have experienced differently.

I believe it is very helpful along the path to self-improvement. As I have just said that you feel so much better. When we have things all bottled up it causes tension and stress. One doesn’t feel good at all. It is very important that we feel good about ourselves and other people as well.

I know that many times I wish I would have said something and I didn’t and I later questioned myself, “Why didn’t I?” At least I would of had an answer. So, if you would like to practice saying more of what and how you feel. Just start doing it. Remember, don’t be rude about it. Start with the positive things. If you have a really good friend and you feel that they have been a really good friend. Tell them how you feel.

Another factor of self-improvement is improving your health. We have been working on the inner self, but the outer self is just as important. What we eat also affects our outer selves. When we don’t eat food that nourishes our bodies we don’t and won’t feel good. It’s true that cooking
fresh foods takes longer, but it is so worth it. Our bodies will thank us tremendously. You can make quick and deliciously healthy foods. Soups and beans are very easy to make. I know you are probably thinking to yourself that you don’t like beans. Have you tried them? That is the question. Split peas are delicious. Try them and see how you like them. Plus, they don’t take long to cook at all. I always say that eating healthy doesn’t have to taste bad, because it doesn’t. However, many times things that are good for us will not always taste good, and we have to get over it doesn’t taste good. Many of us are struggling with this, because we have been conditioned to think that it is supposed to taste good.

If you have children it’s a good idea to start them out early eating healthy and drinking plenty of water. We don’t want the commercial’s for sugary foods to dictate what they are eating. We must teach them what is good and not good to eat and it’s better if it is done at an early age. Include fresh fruits and vegetables in their diets. Don’t purchase the junky cereal’s that are being advertised on television. It’s true that you won’t be able to control what they eat all the time, but if you teach them well they can and will make good healthy eating decisions, even when you are not around and throughout their whole lives.

In my opinion, it is very important that we keep our digestive systems working at it’s optimal best. Again, that means drinking lots of water and eating lots of fruits and vegetables. Foods that contain lots of fiber. Even we we eat foods that have lots of fiber or may not have lots of fiber we can add fiber to it by sprinkling flaxseeds in our food. You cannot even taste it. So, the next time you make pancakes or waffles sprinkle some flaxseeds in it. When our digestive system in not working properly we don’t feel good. Problems such as constipation, diarrhea, gastritis, crohn’s are just to name a few. These are signs that our digestive system is not working properly. Also other health problems can arise when we are not feeding our bodies good nutrition.

Getting exercise is important too. Make sure that you are getting some kind of physical activity in your daily routine. Walking, doing yoga and pilates, or any other physical activity that you like to do. Don’t do it by yourself if you can. Ask someone if they would like to join you. It will be a motivator for yourself and them.

Make intentions today to start taking care of yourself. If you take care of your body, your body will definitely take care of you.

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