Successful Self Improvement Tips

by MoonMaa

Improve Yourself Mentally, Emotionally And Physically. Learn To Be A Better You!

The definition of self-improvement is to improve one's mind, character, etc..., through one's own efforts. What can we do to be better people?

There are so many negative things that are coming at us these days. You turn on the news all you hear about is people losing their jobs, homes, etc. How can we turn these negative outcomes into positive outcomes? Is it easier to feel negative or positive?

That is the question? It might be easier to feel negative, but negativity destroys everything. You cannot get ahead by feeling negative. Besides, who really wants to be around negative thoughts, people, or environment? Who wants to be around people who complain all the time? Don't you just hate it when a friend or someone you know complains about something, and you offer them advice, but they don't take it, and they just continually complain? All these things are negative. Let's get the negativity out of our life, so the positivity can shine through!

You will feel 100% better!

Stop Caring What You Think People Are Thinking About You

There is always going to be someone who doesn’t agree with you or maybe not even like you. However, you can’t let that stop you from pursuing your dreams or goals. What’s good for someone else may not be good for you. It might not be the path you are meant to go down. There are many paths to success. Just because I choose a different road to go down doesn’t mean that I won’t get there. Who cares what people are thinking or what you may think they are thinking? Many times people have preconceived notions anyway.They have opinions about people they don’t even know or haven’t even taken the time to know. So, if someone doesn’t know me or anything about me, Why would I care what they think? This has prevented many people from doing what they love to do or even trying something different. The majority of people aren’t doing things, because they really want to anyway. They are doing things because everyone else is doing it. So, the question you can ask yourself is,” If everyone decided to jump off the bridge would you do it too?” If you are in your right mind, of course, the answer is, “No”.

Many times we are so wrapped up in what others may think that we can’t even hear ourselves thinking. What we think is important too. Stop asking people what they think. Sometimes we ask people what they think. Then, when they do give their opinions we don’t want to hear them. Well, it’s hard for someone not to give their opinion if you have been asking what they think for the past 10 years. Stop asking them and start thinking yourself.

It’s not about them it’s about you. It’s not what someone thinks you should be doing. It’s what you want to do. There are many things that you could be doing. If you feel confident in something than go ahead and do it. If you ask someone they may tell you that you shouldn’t be doing that. What do they know anyway?

People make assumptions all the time and 99% of them are just assumptions that’s all they are. No one has confirmed anything. Think for a change, “What do I think about it?” Not what so and so thinks. Who cares? This is your life. Sometimes we ask questions we already know the answers to. You have already made up your mind anyway. Why do we need someone else’s approval?

The path of self- improvement is about improving ourselves. If we are worried all the time what someone may think, it’s hard to feel good. If we feel like crap the majority of the time, we cannot improve ourselves. We must feel good. Stop worrying and for once in a lifetime stop caring what other people think. It’s really a great feeling. Start being you.

Constructive Criticism Is Not Judging You

Along the path of self-improvement is being able to take constructive criticism. No one is always right. The sooner you understand that the better off you will be. Constructive criticism is not judging you. It is simply telling you something about yourself that you need to work on. Human beings are a work in progress. None of us are perfect, nor will we ever be, but that doesn’t mean that we can’t be the best that we can possibly be. When someone gives us a compliment we are all smiles. Yet, if someone tells us something that we need to hear (and we know it whether we admit it or not) we take it as an insult and get offensive. As a friend of mine always tells her kids you have to take your no’s like you take your yes’s. It’s the only way we can improve ourselves. If we don’t correct what we are doing wrong, than it will only get worse. Like the saying, “If you keep on doing what you been doing you keep on getting what you been getting” that usually refers to something that you are doing wrong.


In reality no one really enjoys being criticized. No one wants to hear what they are doing wrong. Why? Because it can be very hard to look in the mirror sometimes, we would rather look at someone else than ourselves. All criticism is not bad. If you saw someone that wasn’t doing something right, wouldn’t you want to tell them? Maybe they didn’t know and maybe they would like to know.


If you’re the type of person that gets offended or argumentative every time someone tries to tell you something than people won’t tell you anything. What kind of person will you become? I’ll tell you right now. The kind of person no one will want to be around. If for some reason that one day you want to correct someone you see doing something wrong, just be ready for them not to care two cents what you have to say. Because people are very good observers. They will see how you act when someone try’s to advise you.

In this world people will judge us. It’s the only way that you can know if a person is good or bad. People usually do judge you on your actions. Human beings do not have the power to know what is in someone’s heart only Allah does. So, we should make sure that our actions are good. Regardless, of what people say we know that we have all judged someone at one time or the other. It really doesn’t make sense to tell someone that they are judging you if they are trying to offer you some good advice. Your actions reflect what is in the heart. The inner reflects the outer. So, if your actions are bad usually what’s in your heart is too, and vice versa.

Questions That Can Shake Your Positive Mindset

Sometimes people can ask questions that can shake your positivity. Instead of feeling good you
Questions that keep you feeling depressedend up feeling terrible. It happens to the best of us. Before you know it you will end up in a pity party for yourself. How could this happen when you have promised yourself that you will not slip back into negativity? Many times people will ask you questions, because they know you will respond negatively. People can feel when you aren’t feeling good about a situation or yourself. So, let’s remain positive no matter what. You don’t have to tell everyone everything that is going on in your life. Nowadays, it’s normal for people to tell everything they are doing and not doing on facebook and twitter. It’s called updating your status. I don’t know about you, but I don’t like to tell everyone my every move and thought. You don’t have to be rude when you answer people’s questions. Always be polite. Remember, it’s not what you say it’s how you say it. Besides, we aren’t trying to offend anyone, but we are also trying not to let anyone offend us either. Also, you don’t have to go into details. Many times the less we say the better. Here are some questions along with the answers that you can use:

Are you working? ( You may have lost your job)

Not at this moment.

Are you looking for a job?

I’m looking for whatever helps me with my financial obligations.

Are you married? (If you are over 30 people just keep asking you this same old tired question)

No, I’m not and I am happy with my current situation. It will happen when it’s meant to.

What do you do for a living? ( If you are doing network or internet marketing people can sometimes say negative comments)

I help people learn ways to be successful in their own business.

Do you have a degree?

I didn’t know having a degree determined whether I will be successful in life. ( Or you can just answer yes or no)

Why do you have so many children?

I’m happy and blessed to have as many as God gave me.

Did you go to college?

You can say where you were educated at whether it is a career school or technical institute. (You can also say I didn’t know going to college was the only way a person could be educated, because there are other educational options)

Why do you work at home?

It was the best option for my situation.

If a friend calls you and you are not in the mood to talk or you have something that is bothering you. (It’s just best to say you can’t talk rather than take your frustrations out on the person who called you)

I can’t talk right now, it’s not a good time.

If someone asks you about purchasing something and you don’t have the money. (It’s better to say this than to continually say that you are broke because words become realities.)

It’s not a good time for me to purchase (say whatever it is)

Are you happy with your life? (You might not be feeling that great at that time, but we all have things we can be grateful for and we should concentrate on them)

Yes, I absolutely am and I am thankful and grateful for everything that I have.

What do you do? (This question is asked to a lot of stay at home moms as if taking care of a family is nothing)

I teach children to become responsible adults with morals that will cause them to be good citizens for society.


Learn To Be The True Master Of Your Life

I really enjoyed reading this book by Inayat Khan. If you want to accomplish your goals and learn to live a fulfilling life. Then, this book is a great book to add to your library. Everyone can relate to the topics in this book which include: Attainment, Knowledge and Power, Concentration, Hope, Patience, Motive, Destiny, The Spirit of Mastery, Free will, Action, and Responsibility.


If we were to really learn the benefits of mastering these topics we would truly be masters of ourselves. Which is really the best master anyone could be to master your ownself. To fight back the desires that many people have become slaves of. To not be consumed of our bad and negative thoughts


I found this book to be enlightening and inspiring. This book everyone can relate to because these are all the feelings that we have on a daily basis. In this book you will learn to control them so that you can become a better person. If you are looking for a book to help you on your journey to self-improvement. Then, this is definitely the book to have. It is positivity at it's best.


You can use this book for a reminder. I have already read it about 3 times and sometime I just use it as a reference.


 "Mastery is not only a means of accomplishing the things of the world, but it is that which a person fulfills the purpose of his life. It is not necessary for man to leave all the things of the world and go into retreat. He can attend to his business, to his profession, to his duties in life and yet at the same time develop this spirit in himself which is the spirit of mastery"  Inayat Khan

Inspirational Quotes That Uplift You

Inspirational Quotes That Uplift You

God is One and liketh unity. Prophet Muhammad (SAW)

Strive always to excel in virtue and truth. Prophet Muhammad (SAW)

Much silence and a good disposition, there are no two works better than those. Prophet Muhammad (SAW)

All kinds of modesty are best. Prophet Muhammad (SAW)

Who are the learned those who practice what they know. Prophet Muhammad (SAW)

Learn to know thyself. Prophet Muhammad (SAW)

He who knoweth thy ownself knoweth God. Prophet Muhammad (SAW)

Kindness is a mark of faith whoever hath no kindness hath no faith. Prophet Muhammad (SAW)

Humility and courtesy are acts of piety. Prophet Muhammad (SAW)

Be persistent in good actions. Prophet Muhammad (SAW)

He who is true who protecth is brethern present and absent. Prophet Muhammad (SAW)

“Give me advice”, said someone. Muhammad said. “Be not angry”. Prophet Muhammad (SAW)

God loveth those who are content. Prophet Muhammad (SAW)

All actions are judged on the motive prompting them. Prophet Muhammad (SAW)

Every good act is charity. Prophet Muhammad (SAW)

Do not consider any good act insignificant, even meeting your brother with a cheerful face. Prophet Muhammad (SAW)

When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be. Lao Tzu

Anticipate the difficult by managing the easy. Lao Tzu

Great acts are made up of small deeds. Lao Tzu

He who controls others may be powerful, but he who has mastered himself is mightier still. Lao Tzu

He who knows that enough is enough will always have enough. Lao Tzu

I have just three things to teach: simplicity, patience, and compassion. These three are your greatest treasures. Lao Tzu

Kindness in words creates confidence. Kindness in thinking creates profoundness. Kindness in giving creates love. Lao Tzu

To realize that you do not understand is a virtue; Not to realize that you do not understand is a defect. Lao Tzu

When you are content to be simply yourself and don’t compare or compete, everybody will respect you. Lao Tzu

To keep the body in good health is a duty… otherwise we shall not be able to keep our mind strong and clear. Buddha

If you knew what I know about the power of giving, you would not let a single meal pass without sharing it in some way. Buddha

You can only lose what you cling to. Buddha

You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection. Buddha

The secret of health for both mind and body is not to mourn for the past, not to worry about the future, or not to anticipate troubles, but to live in the present moment wisely and earnestly. Buddha

The thought manifests as the word; the word manifests as the deed; the deed develops into habit; and habit hardens into character. So watch the thought and its ways with care, and let it spring from love born out of concern for all beings. Buddha

Even death is not to be feared by one who has lived wisely. Buddha

However many holy words you read, however many you speak, what good will they do you if you do not act on upon them? Buddha

Do not overrate what you have received, nor envy others. He who envies others does not obtain peace of mind. Buddha

Just as a candle cannot burn without fire, men cannot live without a spiritual life. Buddha

The way is not in the sky. The way is in the heart. Buddha

When one has the feeling of dislike for evil, when one feels tranquil, one finds pleasure in listening to good teachings; when one has these feelings and appreciates them, one is free of fear. Buddha



What Areas Do You Need Help With Self-Improvement?

Say What's On Your Mind But Don't Be Rude

Haven’t you noticed that children they just say what’s on their minds? As adults we get away from that truthfulness, because we tell ourselves that we don’t want to hurt someone’s feelings. I’m not saying that we should just go around saying to people whatever we think especially if we feel it is hurtful. However, I do feel that we should say more of what we feel. You just feel so much better. A lot of times people aren’t even offended, but we hadn’t told them how we feel, because we assume that they will be offended. It also cuts down on the backbiting and slandering. Because if you can’t say it to a person’s face then you shouldn’t really be saying it at all.

Also people can’t make assumptions. That would cut down on a lot of the preconceived notions too. If someone has a genuine question. You can just answer it (people can tell when you are sincere and really do not know). It is better to ask a question and get the answer than make assumptions about something that isn’t true.

In my experience I learned that when people think you are not going to respond they say a lot of things to you and many times they are not nice. This has been my observation you may have experienced differently.

I believe it is very helpful along the path to self-improvement. As I have just said that you feel so much better. When we have things all bottled up it causes tension and stress. One doesn’t feel good at all. It is very important that we feel good about ourselves and other people as well.

I know that many times I wish I would have said something and I didn’t and I later questioned myself, “Why didn’t I?” At least I would of had an answer. So, if you would like to practice saying more of what and how you feel. Just start doing it. Remember, don’t be rude about it. Start with the positive things. If you have a really good friend and you feel that they have been a really good friend. Tell them how you feel.

Ready To Change Your Life?

You Might Have To Change Your Friends

Self-improvement is a lifetime commitment. It’s something that we will be doing from the beginning all the way to the end. So, it’s very important that we have friends that can help us with this process. Changing is not always easy but it is a must if we want to do better. Change is inevitable.


We have three stages in life which we go through: A child, An adult, An elder. In all of these changes we go through different experiences. Sometimes we keep the same friends in all of these stages but many times we don’t. Why? Because we change and when we change our priorities change. Many times our life changes. That means your likes and dislikes change. The path of self-improvement is all about improving oneself. Being better today than you were yesterday. We need people in our lives that will help us continue on this journey. Why? Because this is a lifetime experience.

If we have people in our lives that is not going to help us be better mentally, physically, emotionally, and spiritually. Then we have to wonder do these people really belong in our lives and if they are how long should we let them stay. The saying you are the company you keep is so relevant. Because in reality you are. You will not change if you are keeping bad company.


I know some of you will say,”I am their only good friend. I have to be in their lives because if I don’t set a good example who will?” However, that is so far from the truth it isn’t even funny. The fact of the matter is the majority rules. If the majority of your friends are bad. Do you really think that you will make a difference?


Even if you are good, you won’t be for long. That’s why it is so important that we surround ourselves with good people. People who want to change for the better and are taking steps to go in that direction. The first thing you should do is invite people to change too. Tell them that you are making changes in your life and that you would like for them to join you in this journey. They may or may not want to accompany you on this journey. You will get an answer. They may continue to be in your life or you may stop seeing them altogether.

So, what are the qualities of a good friend?

1. Someone who loves and fears Allah.
2.Someone who wants good for you in this life and the hereafter.
3. Someone who tells you not what you always want to hear but what you need to hear.
4.. Someone if they see you doing something wrong they won’t be afraid to correct you.
5. Someone who encourages you to do good things and not bad things.
6. Someone that if you see them doing something wrong they won’t get defensive or offended but will listen to your advice if you are right.
7. A good listener. They listen to what you have to say not ignoring you if they don’t agree.
8. Someone who is forgiving because we all make mistakes.

What are the qualities of a bad friend?

1. They don’t care what Allah says.
2. They get offended if you try to correct them if you see them doing something wrong.
3. They love backbiting and gossiping.
4. They are selfish only caring about themselves.
5. If they see you doing something wrong they encourage you to do it and don’t reprimand you.
6. They love complaining and pity party’s.
7. They are not good listener’s.
8. They hardly ever agree with you even when you are right.

It is very important that we have good friends in our lives. It’s sad to say this, but everyone doesn’t want good for you, and you have to be able to tell who does and who doesn’t. Good friends are people who love and care about you. Who want the best for you. It’s not easy to find out that your friends are not good for you, but it is better to find out now rather than later. Sometimes we have to clean the clutter out of our lives. Once we do that we can move forward and it feels great too!

Improving Your Health

Another factor of self-improvement is improving your health. We have been working on the inner self, but the outer self is just as important. What we eat also affects our outer selves. When we don’t eat food that nourishes our bodies we don’t and won’t feel good. It’s true that cooking
fresh foods takes longer, but it is so worth it. Our bodies will thank us tremendously. You can make quick and deliciously healthy foods. Soups and beans are very easy to make. I know you are probably thinking to yourself that you don’t like beans. Have you tried them? That is the question. Split peas are delicious. Try them and see how you like them. Plus, they don’t take long to cook at all. I always say that eating healthy doesn’t have to taste bad, because it doesn’t. However, many times things that are good for us will not always taste good, and we have to get over it doesn’t taste good. Many of us are struggling with this, because we have been conditioned to think that it is supposed to taste good.

If you have children it’s a good idea to start them out early eating healthy and drinking plenty of water. We don’t want the commercial’s for sugary foods to dictate what they are eating. We must teach them what is good and not good to eat and it’s better if it is done at an early age. Include fresh fruits and vegetables in their diets. Don’t purchase the junky cereal’s that are being advertised on television. It’s true that you won’t be able to control what they eat all the time, but if you teach them well they can and will make good healthy eating decisions, even when you are not around and throughout their whole lives.

In my opinion, it is very important that we keep our digestive systems working at it’s optimal best. Again, that means drinking lots of water and eating lots of fruits and vegetables. Foods that contain lots of fiber. Even we we eat foods that have lots of fiber or may not have lots of fiber we can add fiber to it by sprinkling flaxseeds in our food. You cannot even taste it. So, the next time you make pancakes or waffles sprinkle some flaxseeds in it. When our digestive system in not working properly we don’t feel good. Problems such as constipation, diarrhea, gastritis, crohn’s are just to name a few. These are signs that our digestive system is not working properly. Also other health problems can arise when we are not feeding our bodies good nutrition.

Getting exercise is important too. Make sure that you are getting some kind of physical activity in your daily routine. Walking, doing yoga and pilates, or any other physical activity that you like to do. Don’t do it by yourself if you can. Ask someone if they would like to join you. It will be a motivator for yourself and them.

Make intentions today to start taking care of yourself. If you take care of your body, your body will definitely take care of you.

Affirmation Cards

Need help thinking positive? Sometimes we all need something to help us stay on track. Reaffirm positive thoughts using these affirmation cards. You can look at them before you go to bed and when you awake and all throughout the day. Keep a pack of them in your purse! Put them where you will be able to see them. Our thoughts do become realities. So think positive!

Pass On The Knowledge You Learn By Giving It As Gifts

Have you ever read a good book and you just wanted to share with the world? Have you ever listened to an inspirational cd or watched an inspirational video? Give them as gifts. It doesn't have to be a special occasion to give a gift. It's a good way to pass on beneficial knowledge to other's and help change their lives and our's for the better. So, the next time you are thinking about giving a gift to someone. Pass on the knowledge that you have learned by giving it to them as gifts. Positive gifts make the best gifts.

Teach Your Kids About Having A Positive Mindset

The saying,"That it's never too late to learn is still true". However, if you can learn things when you are younger it is much better. Sometimes we can get in a rut and it's not always easy to get out of it. The mind is very powerful. We should always feed it good things from when you are young, all the way to when you are older. Being positive is not always easy.


So, many things can affect you in life. Many people get stuck. Having a positive mindset can really help you rise above negative things in life. It can help you become like the energizer bunny. You will just keep going and going, no matter what life throws at you. Teaching your kids this at an early age will be a big benefit to them. Reading positive books at a young age can really help instill in a child the importance of having a positive mindset and outlook on life.

How To Analyze Yourself

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The hardest part of self-improvement is to take a look at one’s own self. It is so easy to look at other people’s faults and mistakes and correct their’s, but it is hard for one to look in the mirror at one’s own. Many times we rather just pretend that we don’t have any. That is so far from the true reality, because everyone has them. Only if we admit them can we correct them. If we go on acting like there is no problem, than we won’t fix the problem, and instead it will become worse. It’s no shame in making mistakes, because we are human beings and we will never ever be perfect. However, we can learn from them. Not only from our’s but other people’s as well.

In life it’s about moving forwards not backwards. The more knowledge we gain the better we are supposed to become. Is this an overnight process? Absolutely not! However, we have to start somewhere. If we don’t ever start we won’t ever get to our destination. The definition of crazy is doing the same thing and expecting different results. It’s just not going to happen. So, we have to change ourselves for the better. I always say if different people are telling you the same thing about yourself, than it is probably true. Do we always want to hear that? Of course not, but you have to climb down off that high horse that you have been riding so you can see it in a different view.

Here are a few tips you can use to help you in the process:

1. Find something that you need to improve and work on it. (It could be anger issues, not having any patience, laziness, etc.)

2.Ask a friend or a family member if there is something that they think you could work on about yourself.

3.Just focus on yourself, not worrying about what other people may be doing for the moment.

4. Ask yourself what could you be doing better.

5. Find out if there is something that you should be doing and why aren’t you doing it.

6. Be completely honest with yourself. (This is not easy but it must be done)

7. Take one thing at a time.

These are only a few tips, but they are very helpful. We don’t want to blame other people for our problems, because if we continue to do so we will not move forward. If we make ourselves better, than only can we make the world better. So, let’s take a good look at the man or woman in the mirror and start making the changes that we know we need to make.


How To Stay Positive Even When You Don't Feel Like It

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It’s easy to have a positive moment but the hard part is staying that way. Things happen in life and many times you don’t feel very positive. Your feelings were high and now they are very low. It could be your environment, money problems,etc. You now feel your positive feeling crashing to the ground and making a loud boom! What can you do? Many times when we choose the path of self-improvement we are on it by ourselves because many people are not coming along on this path with us. So, we have to learn how to keep this positive mindset going even if we don’t feel like it. Things in life are not going to stop happening to us just because we have decided to remain positive no matter what. It seems just when we have taken up this life-long battle upon ourselves is when the challenges set in. However, there are things that you can do to help you get through the tough times.

Prayer is a good way to combat hopelessness. When you pray it gives you hope. Hope that Allah will answer you and it gives you an outlet to tell your feelings to the One that can only help you. Not taking things so seriously because there are things that could always be worse. Continually read positive or self-improvement books. Try to read one once a month. It really does help. Don’t concentrate on the negative things that might be happening only focus on the good things. That’s when having a grateful journal really does come in handy. Also, writing down the things that you want to do in a goal setting journal is good too, because when you focus on what you want to do it does help you feel good even if you might not be able to do it right now. You could even start your own book club or have a friend and family get together. It is a good feeling being around the people that you know and love.

Life is filled with ups and downs but we don’t have to let the down’s become our life. We should focus more on the ups and feel good.


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Write Down Your Self Development Goals

Writing is very therapeutic. It can also help us with solving our problems. When we put them on paper we can identify them than we can proceed to solve them. Write down what you would like to improve about yourself. In my article, "How To Analyze Yourself" I gave you some questions to ask yourself. The books below can help guide you on your self-development journey by helping you get to the bottom of your self-development goals and what you can do to achieve them.

Updated: 10/02/2014, MoonMaa
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