There are those of us who have a love affair with shoes, both men and women while there are those who could care less. This article is not for the latter of the two. I recently asked one of my male readers who happens to love wearing women's flats for an interview. Much to my delight he accepted. You can read the details as to how this man came to love women's shoes, where he buys them and when he wears them. Enjoy as you learn the truth about men who wear women's ballet flats. I'd like to thank him for this interview it was a delight. I learned a lot and know the readers will as well. The pictures included are contributions of the man I interviewed. Enjoy!
What Makes a Man Wear Women's Flats?
Read a copy of a real life interview with a man who wears women's flats. Learn what it is about women's shoes that attract men, where he buys them and when he wears them in public.
What Is a Ballet Shoe?
The types of ballet shoes men wear are those without a heel.
Let's understand the meaning of the shoe we're discussing here today. This interview covers the ballet flats. I begin by asking the man I'm interviewing to describe the type of shoe to which he will be referring. Below you see a few shoes from his collection.
Question - You reference ballet flats in this interview, what do you consider to be a ballet flat.
Answer - Ballet flats to me are those cute shoes with no heel at all. Basically just the sole. So a ballet flat gives you no added height. They are also open and expose most of the top of the foot. Some show toe cleavage and some don't but you must be able to see basically all the top of the foot. Ballet flats can be any color, any material but most of all cute and feminine looking. Ballet flats often have bows or some other decoration on the toe part. For example my Tory Burch Revas have the TB medallion on them.
Do You Notice the Shoe's People Wear?
There are those of us who notice a persons shoes while others never do. which are you?
Why Do You Wear Women's Shoes?
What could possibly make a man want to wear women's flats?
Question - What do you think makes a man love buying and wearing women's shoes?
Answer - Maybe the same could be said about women. What could possible make a women wear a man's work boots as an article of fashion and not for work? "Could it be we are both one sex or the other turned inside out?"
Could it be society has assigned a gender to articles of fashion but but the lines are being crossed? When it comes to women and their shoes some people say they are out of control. How many pairs is enough? How many pairs of black shoes or flats do you need? What part of the brain makes women like this? And if we are both on gender are there men who's brains are like this? Shoe guys?
Who are Shoe Guys?
Men of all kinds enjoy wearing women's ballet flats.
Question - What do you mean by the term shoe guy?
Answer - ( I have a few friends that are shoe guys, they talk about the awesome pair of men's shoes they bought or how comfy they are or sometimes even the price. But they are referring to men's shoes)
What if there is a part of the male brain that likes shoes the way women do? There are thousands of guys out there like this, BUT how many guys would actually buy themselves women's shoes or flats?
( For me I've always liked feminine women's shoes. I would see a women's wearing a cute pair of flats and think - WOW those look great on her, I wish I had a pair too. If they were OMG those are cute and I really want a pair, I would search for a store that sold them and then go buy myself a pair. Of course after I bought myself pair could I wear them out in public???)
When a women buys a pair mens shoes or article of mens clothing she can't wait to go out and show her friends as well as show it off in public. Is the reverse true for men??? In the past few years the reverse is slowly happening. "Men/people need to get over themselves and love what they love, who they love and love life to the fullest" So yes men are wearing ballet flats
What Attracts Men to Woman's Shoes
This mans history of wearing ballet flats
Question - When did you first become attracted to women's shoes?
Answer - In 2005 I went to a Nine West store, pick out a pair of flats I saw a few weeks earlier, asked for my size, and ended up trying them on in the store. The sales girl was awesome and I ended up buying them. I was too afraid to wear them in public very much. In 2007 I went on a trip by myself and wore my flats in public most of the trip.
That was nerve wracking but I did end up buying a couple more pairs. As time went by and with the help of the internet I learned there were quite a few guys that also wore ballet flats so I was not alone and my desire to wear flats grew. So things carried on, I'd see a women wearing a pair I liked then often get myself the same ones. My big break came in 2009. One of the sale girls and I sorta became close friends. This was great since she knew and didn't care that I wear "women's" shoes. I asked her about her Michael Kors flats one day. Next thing I know she was asking me if I bought a pair yet! Next thing I know I had 5 pairs. We talked openly about ballet flats and what we liked. One day I mentioned I LOVE the Tory Burch flats but have never found a store that sold them. She told me on my up coming vacation where I could get a pair. Now I'm up to ....Too many pairs of Tory flats)
The Reasons Men Wear Ballet Flats
A guy might wear ballet flats for many reasons, anything from being a former ballet dancer to wearing them since they are the only comfortable shoes that fits.
Question - Being a man who enjoys buying and wearing ballet flats and knowing other men who do as well can you offer some insights as to why you think men wear ballet flats.
Answer - A guy might wear ballet flats for many reasons, anything from being a former ballet dancer to wearing them since they are the only comfortable shoes that fit their foot and EVERYTHING in between.
A man wearing ballet flats doesn't determine his sexual identity although in peoples minds it might. If a women wears work boots is she a lesbian? She may or may not be but wearing work boots isn't what determines that. She might just like looking a bit more masculine sometimes. Same thing for guys, wearing ballet flats doesn't determine if you a gay or straight. Often it's just his own fashion freedom or expression. And lets face it ballet flats are pretty cute.
Wearing Women's Shoes in Public
What it's like for a guy to wear women's ballet flats in public.
(As a guy that wears flats in public I do receive lots of different reactions. I'm OK with peoples reactions since it is something a bit different. Anything from "look at that guy, he's wearing ballet flats, giggle" or "finger pointing" or even complements.
I bet I could write a book on some of the more interesting reaction, ha ha.) Other than high heels, ballet flats are very feminine looking shoes and shoe manufactures have stayed away from making them for men.
But there are lots of men who own a pair or wear them so it's very likely they have ventured over to the women's section of the store to get a pair. It can be very nerve wracking for a guy to try a pair on in a women's shoes store but it does happen.
(I'm a perfect example of that. I always try them on in the store to make sure they fit. After years of just buying them, trying them on at home and finding out they don't fit then returning them I now avoid that hassle. Most sales people are great and some even kinda like to see a guy step outside the gender barriers)
Where to Find Ballet Flats Sizes for Men
There are a few great places to buy quality fashion ballet flats in larger sizes some men and women find difficult to find.
The List of Quality Retailers Offering Larger Size Flats for Men or Women
Nordstroms - Has the largest selection of Tory Burch in sizes up to 13
Saks Fifth Avenue - Where I found my dream shoe above in sizes up to 10
Ralph Lauren - I found adorable yet simple flats with nothing on them here up to 11
Women's Coastal Rain Skimmers
This comfortable and highly functional outdoors ballet flat can be found in sizes up to 11. I found this nice yet simplistic flat at LLBean
LLBean - This shoe is currently on sale. I love this casual shoe for a Saturday out and about.
Shoe #1 Serena by Tory Burch
Shoe #2 Quinn by Tory Burch
Which Flat do You Prefer?
If you could pick only one pair which Tory Burch flat would you chose?
I'd pick shoe #2
I'd pick shoe #1 the Serena by Tory Burch
A Special Thanks
I'd like to give a special thanks to the male reader who made this interview and hopefully awareness possible.
I've grown very fond of him, his class and open nature. I appreciate his insights and hope they help others to be themselves and wear what makes them feel good without the worry of criticism. You see dear friends we all experience it. Don't think there is anything wrong with your choice of hair, clothes or shoes. If it speaks to you answer. The problem is not with us,yet is two fold; We should express ourselves and ignore the negative. Life is a gift and it is perishable, Katie
"B", Thanks again for this opportunity it has been so fun working with you and sharing our ideas.
FLYW ;) K