Why People Cheat on Their Lovers and How to Avoid a Cheater

A large majority of people play the field meeting, flirting, getting to know and dating a lot of people before they find the one. The one meaning that person that stops them dead in their tracks making them think and feel differently evaluating their lives and what they truly want. It’s been said over and over when you find the right person you become a better person. It is natural for any of us to want to be the best we can be when we truly find the one.

The problem with those who continue to flirt with and meet other people even though they are dating you is either you are not the one or they are a compulsive cheater. Either way someone who cheats is undoubtedly not the person you should set your sights on.

There is so much more to the science of cheating than we think.  Today we’ll explore the cheating phenomenon as we get down to the truth of the matter once and for all.

First let’s consider the number one reason people cheat, this goes for both men and women.

For the record, it has been reported that just as many women have admitted to cheating as men. This is not a case of one sex verses the other it's a mutual problem in all types of relationships. 

Aw how grand the beginning of a relationship. We're intensely interested in each other, quick to point out the qualities we adore and admire. We are excited about all the characteristics we share. We are impressed with the others talents, especially those we don't posses ourselves, as these compliment us, make us whole. The possibility they could be the one can blindside a person.

This admiration creates a high that in time will level out and yet the beginning phases of romance stir the chemistry of our animal beings causing for quiet an intense burst of thrilling emotions. 

The work place is a prime environment for cheating as mutual admiration is easily confused for personal interest by the needy party thus leading to advances and cheating. 

The biggest factor being everyone is out to get ahead and or just maintain their job, doing a good job and treating fellow co-workers kind and courteous, more so than out of the office.

This can turn into a back and forth admiration which sometimes develops into a relationship or cheating. 

No one ever does anything wrong without first rationalizing why they should!

1. The best way to avoid cheating is to be in a relationship with the right type of person, more on that in the next section.
2. Make it clear you're looking for and expecting to be in a committed relationship.  It's mind boggling the people who never utter these words. You can't expect it to be a silent given it needs to be brought up and worked out to the comfort of both parties. 
3. You can't blame someone for stepping out on you if you never define the terms of your relationship. 
4. After you make your expectations and desires clear, ask if the other person agrees and is willing to make the commitment. 
5. You must have that verbal agreement; it must be clear and spoken.
6. Create an open dialog discussing what you and your partners needs and expectations are,
7. People vary to many degrees with vast differences between them and their definition of a committed relationship, make yours clear and understood. 

How to Tell Your Lover What You Don’t Like or Want.  Let your partner know what you don't like. Be polite and matter of fact, to the point, It is easiest to do this in the beginning of a relationship.  We are most attentive to learning everything there is to know about our new love interest in the beginning and are rarely judgmental. 

This is hands down the best time to lay all your cards on the table.  If you wait the other person may be offended that you didn't say something before and embarrassed that they continued not knowing how you felt. Things you don't like are just as important as the things you do. Honesty is always the best policy in matters of love, sex and relationships.

In truth some people are flat out unhealthy cheaters. While this is another story they do give off a lot of signals, they're arrogant, obnoxiously flirtatious and self absorbed. But down to earth good people can be drawn into some very common and honest mistakes landing them smack dab in the middle of a cheating situation. It in no way makes them a bad person.

Have You Been Cheated On? Ask yourself if you were realistic about your ability to give this person what they need.  If you've entered into this with unrealistic expectations or blinders as to what you both need cheating is often a symptom.  Anytime you catch someone cheating you've been handed a get out of jail free card! 

Second don't be shy about telling your partner about what matters to you. Open your mouth and communicate what really matters to you in the long haul. The success of your relationship depends on it.  Again, in the beginning your partner is eager to hear your likes and dislikes and will store that information away acting accordingly, so make it count.

Third be you. Don't be something you’re not. In the beginning we tend to try new things that our partners express interest in. While this is great, be certain to let them know if you don't like it instead of trying too hard to fit in.

Let them know you’re fine with them and trying new things but this is an area you will differ on, be honest telling them what works for you and what does not.  Often your partner will find they too don’t like it after all anyway.  Never be afraid to speak freely.

Finally, make it clear what your likes, and dislikes are in the beginning, this will insure you end up with a mate you will be happily ever after with. Don't try to be something you are not just to form a relationship. There are lots of perfect matches for you, yes more than one so never ever settle on anything less than what is right for you.