Am I Falling Out of Love

by katiem2

Falling out of love is difficult for both parties. It's easy to be sure it's over once you know the signs you're falling out of love for keeps.

I'm sure you've heard both statements;

1. falling in love is awfully simple

2. falling out of love is simply awful.

Have you been wondering if you or the person you're in love with is falling out of love? The truth is this kind of thing happens all the time, yes as painful as it is, we all share this common bond. There is a way to know without a doubt if someone is falling out of love. Follow along as I outline how to easily spot the signs determining if it is really over.

The Signs You're Falling Out of Love

You know something's wrong, you feel that sinking sad feeling and yet may not face it but the best thing for everyone is to be honest when you are falling out of love from the beginning.

As easily as we fall in love we may also fall out of love. While many people believe the process of falling in and out of love is common in any relationship often it's a sign the relationship is not working out at all.  As painful as it may be it happens and there is more to it than meets the eye. 

The old belief there is someone for everyone does not mean only one. You can fall in love over and over again, more than once and with different people.  It’s true and a good reason to go easy on yourself chalking up a failed romance to one of life's many experiences. Life is too short to be in a failing relationship going nowhere. Understanding the six types of love defines the abilities of others to love you and give you the love actually need.  This gives any love a fighting chance and one you should consider as you enter into future romances.

Can I Fall in and Out of Love?

Is it possible to fall in and out of love with the same person?

Breaking up or staying together there is no question the best option is to break up as a relationship without love only turns bitter. Many people feel its better to stay with someone they’ve fallen out of love with as appose to hurting them by a split. 

Honestly isn’t wasting their time in a relationship that’s dead far more deceitful and painful?  This also waste and devalues their time. Doing so only robs the partner of precious time they could be spending free to find love again. 

When Love is Over

When a relationship ends most people assume the one doing the breaking up is cold, heartless and does so easily.  The person doing the breaking up deals with a great deal of pain and remorse. Falling out of love is a painful process. 

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How to Know it's Over

The gut feeling it's over is almost always right and a true measure of your honest feelings.

The person breaking up has suffered through a painful loss of love knowing what the other is about to experience.  This person has experienced the steps of falling out of love, the void of the once treasured bond.  They being the one intune to the break down of the realationship in the first place may well be the more sensitive of the two.  

Why, because they first noted the problems, where hurt by it and know they must cause pain being honest about the lost love all the while questioning if it matters as much to their partner. After all they are the one content with staying in a seriously flawed union.  

There is much to be said for those willing to remain in a loveless realtionship.  No matter what your position, breaking up once you’ve fallen out of love is never an easy thing to do.  

The Pain of Falling Out of Love

Facing the Pain of Breaking Up is Hard

Falling out of love is more emotionally exhausting than falling in love as it is a negative experience creating pain. It’s a painful situation for both parties and all the more reason to ask yourself if this is a bump in the road of love or could you be falling out of love for keeps. There are tell tale signs you are no longer in love.

The Signs You're Falling Out of Love

How to know if you’re falling out of love for good; spot the tell tale signs, note these issues in your relationship and evaluate the length of time this has been an ongoing issue.

Maybe it's time to put yourself out there again.

The Signs You're No Longer in Love

  1. When you are alone together do you feel agitated and eager to be apart again
  2. Do you become irritable around your partner for no reason
  3. Do you find yourself making excuses not to be alone without your partner
  4. Have you started lying about where you go or what you do just to prevent including them
  5. Do you feel guilty about telling lies yet continue doing so as the alternative is replusive
  6. Does it feel uncomfortable and awkward to be alone with your partner
  7. Do you no longer have anything to talk about or share with your partner

Signs You're Falling Out of Love for Good

Although the signs you're falling out of love are clear we often go into denial, this is not the healthy thing to do.

 More Signs You No Longer Love Them Anymore

  • Have you intentionally stopped telling your partner that you love them finding it hard to do?
  • Do you zone out when your partner talks?
  • Are you feeling bored or restless?
  • Do you find yourself flirting openly in a way that is not normal for you?
  • Have you stopped having positive thoughts about your partner and your future with them?
  • Do you suddenly find your partners habits of to be very annoying Is your partner complaining that you don't seem to care anymore?

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Definite Signs You Have Fallen Out of Love

The more of these questions that apply to you the more obvious you are no longer in love.
  • Do you feel unhappy in your relationship more as time passes
  • Do you feel resentful toward your partner
  • Do you find yourself starting arguments over little things or insulting your partner
  • Have you started urging your partner to breakup when they complain about your distant behavior
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Dealing With The Pain of Breakups

It hurts when you stop loving another or worse yet they stop loving you but the only thing to do is deal with the pain honestly.

It is difficult and disappointing to fall out of love facing the reality your love won’t last.

If you’ve answered yes to many if not all of the above statements you no doubt are falling out of love. You may in fact be out of love.

The best thing to do is be honest with your partner in order to prevent needless and thoughtless pain by getting on with the break up. You should not stay in a relationship treating your partner in such a manner.

Eventually you will leave. You may wait around and think maybe you’ll fall back in love with them and while this does happen you really should be realistic about your feelings. Staying with someone you no longer love is creating bad love karma for yourself.

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Breaking it Off How to Move On

After you've fallen out of love there is nothing to do but make a clean break and move on.


The bottom line when it comes to falling out of love is honesty.  It's far easier being honest from the start than to find yourself caught in a painful web of deception.  Be honest in your relationships. One lie, although it may seem harmless, turns into another and another until you find yourself living a lie.  Love happens and it's amazing when two people fall in love but there is never any guarantee it will last.

Much Love and Happiness, Katie

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Updated: 04/21/2013, katiem2
 
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katiem2 on 02/17/2013

Mike, Everyone's experience is different as is personalities, beliefs and the like. Thanks for adding your ideas about falling out of love. :)K

Karen on 02/16/2013

I think Mike is SO off base. If you fall in love with a poser, a person potraying a nice person, who later hurts you and treats you badly you certainly fall out of love. I was madly in love with a man who became a totally different person after we married. He hurt me over and over. I tried to make it work, I went to a relationship therapist, he wouldn't go, I prayed and flat out did all I could but he kept hurting me until one day I no longer loved him. You can fall in love only to fall out of love history proves it happens all the time.

MIKE on 02/14/2013

I DONT BELIEVE THERE IS SUCH THING AS FALLING OUT OF LOVE WITH SOMEONE, IF THATS THE CASE THEN YOU NEVER REALLY LOVED THEM FROM DAY 1, YOU EITHER LOVE SOMEONE OR YOU DONT, I HAVE SEEN AND HEARD STORIES OF PARTNERS DOING HURTFUL THINGS TO EACHOTHER SUCH AS CHEATING, VIOLENCE, ABUSE, AND YET THEY STAY TOGETHER BECAUSE THEY "LOVE EACH OTHER" IF SOMEONE CHEATS OR DOES ANYTHING THAT HURTFUL THEY STILL GET SECOND AND THIRD CHANCES BECAUSE THEIR PARTNER LOVES THEM, I HONESTLY THINK ITS A LAME EXCUSE TO BREAK UP WITH SOMEONE AND THE REASON IS BECAUSE THEY SAY THEY HAVE "FALLEN OUT OF LOVE" 90% OF PEOPLE WHO DUMP THE OTHER PERSON NEVER TELL THE DUMPEE THE REAL REASON WHY THEIR BREAKING UP WITH THEM!

katiem2 on 12/18/2011

If you're experiencing all of the signs included in this article you've fallen out of love. There is no shame in this, the only shame lies is wasting precious time staying in the relationship. Be honest and live life following your truth it is then you will know peace and happiness! Much Love and Happiness, Katie

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