I hate to say this because it could come off sounding sexist, but let's face it, women are great at catching guys when they lie. It is just a fact. So don't bother lying to a women. She might not catch you today or tomorrow, but one day she will catch you in your lie. Even worse, she might not bring it up immediately. She might just stew in her anger and resentment for a while, and then add that to a list of complaints she has against you one day when an argument breaks out. Just don't lie!
If you want to go out with your friends one night, just admit you'd like to go out with your friends. Don't lie and pretend you are not going out. She is going to catch you. One of your friends is going to post a comment or a photo on Facebook with you in it, and she is going to see it. Just simply tell the truth. If you are dating a reasonable woman, she will understand you need to have some time with your friends here and there. If you are dating an unreasonable woman, you might want to reconsider why you are dating her at all.
Of course, if you are cheating, that is a totally different story. Oh, one day you are going to get caught. When it happens, and it will happen, it is going to be bad... very bad. A simple solution - simply don't cheat on your girlfriend! You deserve whatever punishment she sees fit if you do.
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A great article and some good ideas too. But of course it depends entirely on the woman.
When we were engaged, I told my fiancé ( now my husband ) not to buy me flowers as we were saving up to buy a house and get married. But I am too "down to earth" to expect them or want them regularly. Occasionally he bought me flowers and that was lovely .
I never dated nasty guys, only nice ones. I don't like nasty men.
My tips would be ;-
ALWAYS be clean and not sweaty.
Listen when she's speaking to you.
Be thoughtful of her weird parents
Be on time
Try to cook something for her, even if it fails, she'll appreciate it that you tried.
If you want to buy her something, DON'T BUY UNDERWEAR, chances are the size will be wrong and you will be in trouble for buying something too big and suggesting she's fat, too tarty, too frilly... Look at what she reads, what music is in her music stand, what colours she wears, what necklaces,earrings, bangles she wears.
And the similar applies to women keeping their menfolk.
DON'T EVER BE TOO CONTROLLING. THAT IS THE DEATH OF A RELATIONSHIP.
Good luck. WE have been together 40 years next month.
That is so true. A personalized gift or thoughtful idea goes a long way. Lately I've found most guys barely try at all. I think I was mostly trying to convey a message to do something rather than nothing at all. Anything nice at all is better than nothing. :-) Thanks for your comment!
That is so true. Talking and listening can help a lot. I even tend to be too talkative on dates, and it is not great for women either. Thanks for sharing!
Useful tips. Being a guy myself I can add one more suggestion, something what actually worked for me: a date is made of talking AND listening.
Thanks for your list. I hope a lot of guys will read it and use it. This way we will have world with more smiling faces:)
Thanks, Brenda! I know what you mean. I keep throwing out hints about flowers to my boyfriend, but he never pays attention. I ended up buying flowers for myself on my birthday. Thanks for the comment!
Good suggestions. I never got flowers from my ex. I guess that's one of the many reasons he's an ex. LOL