As long as your toddler is not refusing food because they are unwell you can assume that your child is displaying his or her independence by refusing an otherwise favorite food. Many parents face this issue and I have heard many mom's cry in frustration "my toddler won't eat anything".
Now we have all heard the line, they won't starve if they miss one meal but most parents will fret if their toddler skips a meal. We also worry that we will throw them out of their routine and if they don't eat their evening meal they will wake up in the middle of the night starving.
What we should remember here is that toddlers are not usually able to eat like adults, three large meals a day can seem daunting to a small child and most toddlers prefer to graze throughout the day. So how do we find a balance?
Smaller meals and more often can be a solution, that way they get to eat with the family but if they feel the need throughout the day they can have smaller snacks. Try to leave small snacks within reach of your toddler and observe when they eat them. Don't make a fuss but a small bowl of raisins or chopped banana left in reach of your toddler can give a great insight to when they are hungry.
By doing this every day for a week you can learn when your child feels hungry throughout the day. A toddler who has to wait three of four hours from lunch to dinner may often refuse to eat dinner because they are too hungry and this has made them cranky.
Once you have discovered the times during the day when your child likes to eat you can start adding the things you want them to eat and giving them meals at those times. The best way to do this is to prepare the food as if you are making something for yourself to eat.
Your toddler will notice you are busy and will be curious about what you are doing, make a place at the table for yourself and your toddler and place the food in the center with a serving spoon. Serve yourself some food without commenting and see what happens. You might just find your toddler is interested enough to join you, yet it is totally their choice at this stage and watch to see if they serve themselves something to eat. Young children love to imitate their parents and if he/she sees you doing this they are much more likely to try than if they are picked up, placed in front of a large plate of food and told to eat it.
Comments
GuestFeb 20, 2012
Great article. I'm a fan.
AJFeb 19, 2012
Yes, everything you say makes sense and will work with most toddlers. But not all of them :)
teddletonmrJan 30, 2012
Be well, Mike
Sheri_OzJan 30, 2012
teddletonmrJan 29, 2012
I found her sitting looking out the window, jar of peanut butter under one arm puppy to her right.
Spoon in hand, muttering a bite for you, and a bite for me as she feed the puppy the peanut butter.
It was all I could do to keep from laughing out loud, the troubleing part. Have you ever watched a puppy eat peanut butter off your little girls spoon?
Thanks for sharing your helpful insights.
Best wishes, and happy Parenting. Mike
AngelJan 29, 2012