The most contented people, of any and all age ranges, tend to have one thing in common: healthy self-esteem. And it follows that helping your children build a positive view of themselves is one of the best gifts you can offer them.
As much as we want to protect our kids from disappointment and unpleasantness, most parents realize that, in reality, this is impossible.
However, by arming your child with a healthy and robust dose of self-esteem, you are providing him or her with everything they need to survive those stumbling blocks; the difficulties and failures that life will inevitably have in store.
Children and adults with good self-esteem are able to make friends more easily; are generally happier and more optimistic; find it easier to resolve problems and conflicts; suffer less anxiety; and subsequently are more successful than their less self-assured counterparts.
There can be no doubt that self-esteem is good for children and will continue to prove helpful well into adulthood. The questions is how to instill a positive sense of self in young children.
Thanks, Mira. Glad you enjoyed reading. The sense of 'competition' or comparing ourselves to others in any way; she's got the latest phone, he's fitter, or whatever, is just so toxic in my opinion.
I think, as I become older and start to feel more comfortable in my skin, I realize how lacking in confidence I was as a youngster (especially teenager). Part of that is just growing up; it's always going to be the way. But, hopefully, a healthy sense of self helps children make the 'right' choices, rather than simply following the crowd. Although I don't have any children yet, that's certainly something I would want to impress upon my hypothetical young 'uns.
What a great article! Wonderful thoughts :)
I loved the point about encouraging cooperation as well as competition... while also not teaching the kid that he shouldn't measure his life and achievements against others'.
Hello, Mike. I think you're right, there's much to be learned from both winning and losing. It's also good to engage kids in activities that aren't about either. We all, even as adults, can walk around with a perception of being in permanent competition. What we should really be focusing on is being the best person we can be, without trying to measure ourselves against others. That said, defeat and the overcoming of it can be very empowering as you rightly point out.
A good Healthy esteem and the golden rule, thanks for the tip. As for the winning and losing thing, isn’t it better to focus on the positive aspects of both? A kid can do his or her best and lose the ball game, while on the other hand learn something new about the game, and work on what they learn empowering them do better next time.
Make it a great day, Mike