How To Stop Cravings, Lose Weight, And Successfully Take Your Life Back - Why It's So Hard

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Feeling A Bit Out Of Control?

A lot of people try to drink water but when they don't get some magical instant result they don't think it's doing anything special. You have to keep hydrated long enough for your body to rewire things back to healthy- sort of loosen up and release it's tight motherly grip on your life.

When you poison the body, be it sugar or arsenic, or even lack of water over extended periods of time, the body, there is no magic instant cure. You have to ride it out. Now if you sit there and don't exercise all day, it will still benefit you but you're going to lose 80% of that water because the body isn't going to use it fast enough when you're not doing anything.

The body's systems work on momentum just like us walking around works on momentum and muscles balancing everything out. It's literally toxic to not move or sit at a desk too long. You wouldn't believe what your body goes through just sitting there! 

By the way, I'm one of those people who can't stand the taste of water, but instead of using that as an excuse I figured out how to beat the taste. Adding packets of cool-aid (essentially) to your water changes it's molecular structure so this isn't a viable solution. I got to thinking about the very mechanics of the tongue- where the taste happens and thus how can I trick the tongue.

In my research I came across an amazing thing. A Berry that you chew and swish around your mouth for about 60 seconds. What this does is coat the tongue effectively blocking the sour taste buds, but enhancing the sweet ones!

Do You Know What This Means?

It means you can safely take a berry then for the next hour, yes an hour, you will only taste sweet. So drinking water, tastes really good. Cool-aid with no sugar? No problem, tastes almost like you put too much in there! You can read that article below:

A fellow author here (SAM) wrote an amazing water article that literally forced me not to publish mine because her's was that good and I couldn't top it or even come close ...

take a look at it below:

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Puff Daddy - The Marshmallow Experiment

There was a movie that came out I think 5 years ago called "Five Year Engagement". The movie itself was about something else but there was a reference I remember hearing in it (a side joke or something) and I just had to look it up!

It was called "The Marshmallow Experiment".  They were doing research on a child's ability to delay gratification and how they would do it. They used stale donuts in another study that related to this one, you could say it was a spinoff of it.

The study was conducted by a man named Walter Mischel, a Stanford University researcher.

Each kid was given permission to take and eat one marshmallow that was put in front of them on a table in a room with nothing but a table and chair. They were told they could eat that ONE marshmallow NOW, or if they could wait they could have two. Of course a bunch of them ate the marshmallow quickly without hesitation (poor kids, you'll see why in a sec).

Others in the group found all kinds of interesting techniques to distract themselves so they didn't eat it and got 2 but 60% of THOSE kids ended up eating the marshmallow anyway! They showed discipline but ultimately crashed and burned trying to resist the sugary goodness of that marshmallow!

What's interesting here is that of the 600 participants (children) only 1/3 of them actually, successfully, delayed gratification completely and received 2 marshmallows. The study didn't end (technically) there for Walter as later he later came to learn that those third of the 600 who were successful at delaying gratification were also successful later in life. They did well on SAT's as well years later.

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What Does This All Mean?

So how can this help you to build your strategy towards losing weight and curbing those disastrous cravings that always get you in trouble?

Well first realize that some people are just born with an inclination towards being disciplined in delaying gratification. It sucks that the rest of us have to work for it (unless it's you) but don't worry, many more people actually are "raised" into learning how to do it and that means ANYONE can LEARN to control it.

Will it be easy? Not really- but much easier than trying to starve yourself on a lemonade diet thinking you'll melt the pounds away and after all the suffering you just gain it back.

Keep in mind that just because it's not easy or natural (endogenous to your brain), that doesn't mean you don't try. Our brains have an incredible capacity for "plasticity". This means we can learn new things, mental abilities, and more on a continuous basis. It doesn't take a lifetime to learn how it just takes a drive to learn about this component of your being!

(I'm put some great books around this article that I found helpful in this)

You learn from those with this ability- natural or earned- and listen to what they have to say about it. You can read books and get a great deal of detail about it- this isn't something you just get some quick information and become superman/woman- but the research and time to learn is actually fascinating. You learn about who you really are and even about your limitations and how you can render them inspiration from limitation. Awareness of the concept and it's underlying power can be enough to light a fire under you- or instill much needed fear in you about what would happen if you didn't tap into it! 

Anthony Robbins is a master at the mind and all things ambition, growth, mental- his book Awaken The Giant Changed my life 10 years ago. So much intel in one place is magical- that book is thick but incredibly inspirational and fun to read.

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"Oh, O.k. I'll Just Think Different And All Is Well.. Right?"

Your very attitude and the mental strategy you use to embark on this task are going to be your "tells". How you strategize and how you think, speak of, write about, or in any way communicate it with yourself or the outside world (or your journal), determines and is a very good predictor of what outcome you will have. This means the answers are right there in those two areas. Conquering the delayed gratification discipline skill set depends on both of those being tuned up.

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The beauty of this being your focus is that you will be looking at YOUR current blueprint for gratification and fighting it. It will give you clues into what parts are being rigid in your mental imagery, thoughts, and actions. It's so personal nobody else in the world will have quite the same problem OR FIX.

The fix is simply to focus on those two areas and get to educating yourself dynamically. I can't tell you where to look because my blueprint is different. (but if you insist I added a section at the end of this article to show you what I started with and why) or two of the most impactful books that "woke me up").

I had to change different things than you will in my mental processes, perceptions, and so on.

If you discover the problem is muddy thinking as was my problem at first, then you can start reading books on the brain (not all are deep or technical) and especially smart drugs- even if you don't want to take any, the things you learn in those books about the functions and reactions of chemicals in the brain are incredible.

Learning that stuff made the world vibrant and clearer. Things made more sense and my thinking improved.

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Where I Started And What I Continue To 

Highly Recommend

Allow me to explain my prized books (you're looking at my virtual bookshelf of books I want my kids to one day read and benefit from).

The first course I was exposed to that changed everything- forever- is Anthony Robbins "Personal Power". Anthony robbins Awaken The Giant Within is also an amazing read and power consolidation of facts (I really like Tony Robbins, in the 90's his voice was squeaky and intolerable but his latest CD set (personal power) is more tolerable).

I mention that because as intolerable as I found his early voice work, his information was so impactful, every single minute, that I endured and got halfway through. I still to this day am not all the way through the course because I keep wanting to apply principals, watch them play out etc... then listen to more. It's incredibly dense with data- you may as well say he discovered the meaning of life and the mechanics of success and has shared them here.

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Next I found his Audio Book called "getting real" this is a cool live talk session that essentially breaks the Life strategies book down live and he gives some more information on the concepts in the book. It's a 4 CD set at about 8 hours I think (was a while ago).

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I have over 480 books I've collected since then, but the most powerful were the ones above and so below. The rest of my collection are books on Brain science, neuroscience, Nootropics/smart drugs/nutraceuticals, and various areas of interest.

I couldn't even afford to buy a 12.00 book  back then, so I lived at the Barns N Nobles bookstore where I could grab a handful of books, find the one I wanted to indulge in for the next 8 hours while I drank my Starbucks Caramel Macchiato (with a gift card from xmas that year!).

Thing is, I was so blown away by many of these book the book actually motivated me to find a way to OWN IT. I bought every one, and the money seemed to fall in my lap when I wanted it so bad... That was when I realized I was applying focus principals I JUST learned and it was working!

What's interesting is that when it comes to losing weight or discipline, it's not that we're oblivious to the steps, what to do etc... it's that we are conditioned to and reactive to habits we form, habits our body forms to protect us from ourselves, and are addicted to our own rationalizations!

Some intelligent people caught up in their own torrent of bad filters, and friends that bring them down constantly, would do well to read a few books on the subject, but some read it, know it, even memorize it, make speeches to everyone about it (solving others problems with what you know), but themselves don't APPLY the principles and merge their own life into them- so reading won't do a thing if you don't take action.

The problem isn't knowing, it's being aware of how to activate that knowing and put it to work for you. It's easy to help others- helping yourself is the challenge! For many it's simply no exposure to the right people or resources (books, classes, videos, etc...).

Our reactive mind and instinctive behaviors rest in the subconscious mind. This means you're practically on autopilot if you don't put that bulldog in check! Most people don't think for themselves unfortunately- but I know you do or you wouldn't have found this article :) so I'll assume you're a proactive thinker or want to be.

For me it was a series of books and several years of putting what I learned into action that helped me hit goals and change bad habits. You're never perfect but with the right understandings you feel like superman and feel invincible.

Taking responsibility for your life is another big one. If you don't admit your mistakes AND listen to those who know better, you will never grow, change, or be able to build that skill set of depriving yourself of "things" now for "health and wellness" later and every day! (that's the topic of my next article by the way). "10 Things People Do To Kill Their Spirits And Ambition/Confidence". 

I hope you got something from this article (like a book maybe? haha kidding...) that can help you either figure it out or if you've already figured it out this article should be a nice view of another persons perspective.

I wish you luck and wealth, Have an Excellent day!