This happens when the woman asks her partner, boy friend or spouse to share his deepest fantasies.
Aw yes all the deep dark secrets. It takes time to build a sense of trust. Once the trust is there it comes head on with the test and much prompting by the woman to confide in her.
A man then shares his fantasies and desires. He spills his guts to you the eager audience. Now, here is where the silent killer of relationship comes into play. If you over react to the fantasies or judge the idea to harshly it deflates the man's trust in you. He feels shot down by the criticism and worse yet betrayed, tricked and on and on the bad feelings build.
Have you done this? Next time take it easy and remember simply talking about such desires and fantasies most often need never go any further than that make believe aspect.
You must walk softly and press your lips together saying nothing until you've given it careful thought. This is a case of if you don't have something good to say, say nothing at all. You do not have to react. Simply tell your man that is really steamy and you will sleep on it and give it more time to sink in. What? maybe this has happened in the past and you dropped the ball.