Everywhere they go they run into someone who is trying to be someone else.. No one's trying to be themselves. What does this spell? Lack of individuality, uniqueness, and value. People like their mates unique, valuable, intelligent, and easy on the eyes and brain, and Real, not a duplicate.
Don't try to be fake, people can sense it. The person who figures this out is the person who has the crowds of potential dates competing for their attention, (Ironically they don't even try, as the easiest thing to do once you realize it, is being yourself) because they fill a need in a market that's saturated with ridiculous people trying to manipulate them. Women don't like to be manipulated any more than men do.. Being genuine is not only comfortable it's adorable! When you do you come to realize that being yourself unburdens you to the point where even the media can't manipulate you you will realize your true power and comfort zone!
We get so caught up trying to be something were not that we put twice the energy we need into pretending, and theirs little energy left for social interaction where by we can enjoy ourselves, relax, and be ourselves. When we're pretenders we find ourselves ill prepared to be resilient to say the least! Confidence suffers and what's less attractive than lack of confidence?
If you only knew that the secret to being amazingly charismatic and confident is to simply relax and stop pretending to be someone else. No two people on this planet are alike, its impossible.. Apples and oranges. Being yourself is not only the most natural state of being, it's the one that will attract people, both romantically and as friends, more than anything else! Being yourself takes no extra energy, in fact it produces more energy. What's ironic is that at first when you're trying to be yourself your fears are still there haunting you and pushing you back into old habits (pretending).
Many try to be themselves and quit before the "transition" actually completes. It takes time and patience, sometimes months but if you endure it you'll eventually become yourself again and others will take notice. Sometimes what puts people in an awkward position when you go from pretending to being yourself is the shock they feel seeing the difference! It takes some getting used to, other times it's people realizing that you've been faking so long they want to give it time to see if this is really you or another fake façade!
You have to do it for you not them too. If you're worried about how others view you your not being yourself- your being worried, anxious, and trying to please the wrong person. You also can't relax enough to actually be yourself if your anxious.
Another problem is we become addicted to those people who themselves are fake and whom are likely the only people who give you the attention you need. You end up with someone as fake as you are and this is a recipe for failure. This is likely one of the biggest reasons people get together and don't last a year or worse fall in love and divorce within 3 years.