Most people are living on autopilot and can't figure out why they are in a tailspin most of the time. They don't have time or energy to do something different or to try something they want to do.
It is important if you want your life to feel free and harmonious to take a few steps first. You must take out some time for yourself to plan your life strategy. Life is not something you should plan on the fly. If you fail to plan you plan to fail. Period.
If your ideal life were a movie what would it look like? Feel like? Smell like? Taste like? Sound like? You need to think like a movie script writer, producer, director, pre-production, editing, and post production staff does. To get your ideal life you will need to write your movie script then generate your life around you to support the lead character in this movie- YOU!
Generate your movie (preproduction and script writing = figure out what your perfect life looks like then PLAN IT on paper not in your head!). You will then generate the sets for your movie, including location, location, location, which will be the environment around you that will support you in making the change easily. Then we will go in and figure out what parts of your rough draft script (your current circumstances, internal dialogue scripting, and actions) need "editing".
Some things will be cut out, others added, others still will be on the editing floor to be put together into a life affirming "gag reel to make you laugh about your mistakes not live in prison worrying about them". A lot of changes will have to be made so that everything flows perfectly. Your environment is incredibly important to making this happen. The finished movie will be your masterpiece. Success is your Emmy!
Once you have the movie written, edited (once you see how it will be you will be able to contrast it with your new life plan/script experience) and ready to "shoot the first take", then you will be ready to put the whole thing into action. Therewill be many takes, changes, and edits to get it right and it will take some time to do this, patience is a must.