Love only grows in an environment of trust.. of belief in yourself.. If you lack this, love will eventually become volatile, you will hurt the other in subtle ways, until you've corroded away their pride, there trust, there own self love.
If they love unconditionally, they don't need to feed off of you, they could just feed to you, and love themselves for their efforts... Love is about synergy- two loves pushing outward create a synergy of love that absorbs- not one that changes either one by action reaction but by natural synergy.
Don't try to completely understand what that means- just know that love happens, it's not conjured in, it's not planned, it's not even secure in the essence that it's dynamic! You must always realize its nature and live within the laws of its existence to experience it...
They receive not in what you give them but by your reactions and happiness in what they gave you.. and if love is real, you will naturally reciprocate this to and for them too... This is the environment, the very soil that love can blossom in and everything from (metaphorically) trees to grass, to fruits and vegetation that makes man thrive.. can be spawned from fertile soil of love..
Two people in love aren't only going to make each other amazing and ambitious; they will affect many others in their wake! Allowing someone to make you happy is one thing, making their actions the cause ONLY of your happiness is actually the epitome of selfish!
But if this is self inflicted then we have no one to blame for our pain when love lost or love is betrayed, for without our keen sense of observation, something love tends to rationalize the bad times, and glorify the good. (thoughts that tell us otherwise that what we see is wrong when the warning signs are posted all too clearly and laced with intuitive reasoning as proof)
Our thoughts seem to become categorized in things we want and things we want to deny. If we get hurt easily by another's actions that only prove that we don't love our self enough to love unconditionally...
If another's actions hurt us it is actually us hurting ourselves because we're denying that we ever truly loved them, we loved ourselves and like to blame them for our loss, but truthfully, we should blame ourselves for being so shameful as to try to take from them what we lacked in giving ourselves!
Patience comes when we don't take from them, but rather enjoy what they give. If they don't give it, we shouldn't feel bad. We should just realize we need to give more.. we can't make them give it, it's not real then.. And to blame them for not giving us happiness we're being selfish.. we're epitomizing ourselves what were blaming them for not doing!
We shouldn't seek happiness from them, but because we give it to them.. if we're upset or sad it's because we are making outcomes that aren't fair, to either party..
True love isn't getting mad because they didn't fulfill some need we had, true love is fulfilling their needs just because we want them to be happy, not because we feel we have to or they won't give us love.. why are people so dam confused about this? Why?
Because people are selfish and want things without earning them first, they want to take it from others efforts because they lack the courage to face themselves and generate the feelings they need within first, so they can give it without requiring reciprocation first..
They think they are entitled when in reality they're not.