Pagan Gay Wedding Gifts for Men

I'd heard about three different handfastings, involving gay men, within a week of same-sex marriage becoming legal. That meant I'd better look for appropriate Pagan wedding gifts for two grooms.

Yet that was quite a niche request. Supply had not yet been carried by growing demand into producing much of a selection. What was available looked for all the world like gifts designed for other couples, hurriedly adapted for this new pairing. Which is precisely what they were.

Pagans had more of a head-start, but there still wasn't much to cover legal gay marriage within a Pagan context.

Therefore I began to explore some ideas for my own designs. With fifteen years' experience behind me actually officiating in Pagan handfastings, I knew about the symbolism and the reality both. I channeled that into my Old Ways and Awen creations.

You have discovered me right at the beginning of this endeavor. The range is currently quite limited, but it will grow. I hope you find a Pagan gay wedding gift idea to match your two men on their big day. Blessed be.

One thing that any Pagan needs is somewhere to keep little bits and pieces. This is particularly true when a couple are being handfast, as the ceremony does include one or two items which may be kept as souvenirs of the big day.

This gorgeous Double God Handfasting Keepsake box will feature the names of your two Wiccan grooms on the top lid. On the underside may be added the date of their handfasting. 

But this is only if you use the template provided. There is also the opportunity to personalize both legends (and indeed the image too!) with your own words.

You may be wondering what's so Wiccan about the design on these gay handfasting gifts for men, or indeed what makes them notably presents for same-sex couples.

There are three Wiccan themes referenced in the design (four if you include the word 'handfast(ing)' in the legends):

• The color is a deep crimson red. This is the hue associated with Wiccan handfastings, as it relates to the Mother Goddess. She governs Pagan wedding ceremonies. Due to the duality at the core of Wicca, the Goddess may be accessed by men too (just as the God is within women). Therefore there's no contradiction in a Goddess's color being invoked in a gift for male couples being handfast.
• The twisting floral border acknowledges the natural world. Wicca is all about nature.
• The representation of the Horned God. This symbol is the circle with the horned 'crescent' above. It invokes divine masculine energy in Wicca.

That last symbol is repeated twice. Generally it would be placed alongside that of the Triple Goddess, which recalls divine feminine energy in Wicca. The fact that we have two Horned Gods renders this piece a double masculine, ergo a Wiccan wedding gift for two gay males.

I personally think that the magnetic photo frame is a particularly good Wiccan wedding gift for two Pagan men. They could use it to hold a photograph of their handfasting!

Unlike most frames, which hang from picture hooks on the wall, this one attaches itself to anything metallic. It could be the world's largest fridge magnet, or else hang inside a locker, or brighten up an otherwise dreary office space, by being featured on a filing cabinet.

Even non-Wiccans will be able to get the message with the bathroom sets for Pagan gay male couples.  There's plenty historic, but nothing obscurely Wiccan in gifts labelled Mr and Mr, His and His or Groom and Groom.

If you like the concept, but not the sets, then there are romantic lovers' mugs with the same legends.

Above you are actually looking at the Mr & Mr Wiccan gay male mugs. But the couple's names are also part of the package. They may be customized to say whatever you want them to say.

I've shown you that first, because the lovers' mug gift for two Wiccan grooms, and the His & His mugs for gay Wiccan men, are exactly the same. Their names are on back.

In all three designs, bringing the lovers' mugs together completes a Horned God symbol, which is the most overtly Wiccan part of it all. Plus the Horned God doubles as an 'and' sign here, linking both men.

Like the idea of the lovers' mugs, but not the design?  Then we may finally leap from the Double God into another Pagan gay male wedding gift idea, which again utilizes Wiccan symbols.

These Wiccan gay men's lovers' mugs can be customized to match the details of their handfasting.

On the front are their names, while on the back is the word 'handfast' and the date.  When the mugs are enjoined, the whole caption reads *their names* handfast *the date*.

It also brings together the points on the symbols representing both grooms.

The pentacle - a five pointed star within a circle - is the universally recognized icon for the Wiccan religion.  A circle with an arrow leading upwards is the global symbol for men. Here both are combined, in order to denote male Wiccans.

Two are included to indicated a gay couple, with one turned around to romantically touch the other in reference to their handfast union.

Again both of these items may be personalized as a Wiccan gay marriage gift for two men. Or maybe you don't want their names printed on your present. In which case, the clock below might be an option. (Though you could just remove the customization from any of the items above too!)

The moon is very important in Wicca, as the visible focus for the Triple Goddess. Its prominence is such that some adherents would refer to Wicca as a moon religion, rather than a nature one per se. I can understand that view, though I don't necessarily agree.

Nevertheless, the full moon on both the clock and the desk tidy will emphasize the fact that this is a Wiccan wedding gift. Your two grooms will get the reference and blessing both, as their icons are formed within it.

I do hope there were some gift ideas for the Pagan gay handfasting that you will attend. If not, please do check back often, as I will be adding more in time. And do pass on my congratulations to the happy couple too!